So when you cohabitate with a man and have his child, marriage is useless right?
Yes, I have low self esteem issues thanks to a bad history of being bullied in school, I'm psychologically damaged when it comes to taking the next step in a relationship. You can't help falling in love and the first time I was blinded and very young, popped out a child, never married. The relationship was on and off for 13 years then I had to be the one with the willpower to finally end it. Then 2 years later met a new man, became friends for a year, then developed chemistry and fell in love. He was the one who asked me if I wanted more children(if I wanted children with him). I was extremely happy and said yes.
Before that though, in the beginning of the relationship he told me he didn't want to get married again. Been married twice. One was a high school sweetheart, married cause she was pregnant and she later cheated on him with his best friend. The second wife died of cancer. I was never married. Fast forward, our son is now 14mths old, and our relationship is still going strong and our son is very healthy and happy baby. My boyfriend did change his mind about what he said in the beginning about marriage and wanted to marry me but we never took the time to go down to the courthouse.
I'm not the type that would be pushy. After all I've been a single mom for almost 10 years(I still count now because legally it's true and plus I raise my other son who lives with us, I'm a single mom to him).
Some of you will get the wrong idea that he's stalling. No. We're just really focused on our growing baby and we work really hard at our jobs and are exhausted a lot. We only have one day off together as a family since we work opposite shifts and difficult schedules.
My point is since we already live together, have a family...there's no point in getting married right? I'm the type that is fine with settling. And I don't care about never being a Mrs______ or the last name differences. Our son has his dad's last name. My family is disappointed that I settled but my life doesn't effect theirs. I know no one cares, but I just had to get this out.