So, inspired by the other wedding thread, post your wedding craziness here!
Mine was so stressful. My parents paid for some of it, but my mom wanted to plan the entire thing. I had no idea the whole thing would turn me into such a lunatic!
I really had no desire to spend a ginormous amount of money on the thing, but I wanted to make the decisions. I could've shaved 2-3 grand off the bill if I had control over the thing. My mom kept hiring people behind my back, buying wedding favors, changing things.
I wasn't super picky about the caterer but I didn't want this specific caterer because they did my friend's wedding and they were rude and the presentation was crap. I told her this. Who does she hire? That specific company. So I go along with it. Whatever. I called them to ask some questions about the menu and they acted like they couldn't be bothered. They told me they had another ceremony that day and couldn't do all this stuff. They were supposed to offer desserts. They said "We might be able to do cookies". Basically everything I asked was "we'll see what we can do, but we have this other ceremony". Wtf? If you can't do it say no, but this isn't acceptable.
So I can fired them and she was pissed.
I was going to have the bridesmaids wear black dresses of their choice. My mom said no, she wanted matching dresses. So I took off work a day that I really couldn't afford to take off. Had two of my maids drive over, two girls who don't get along. We picked out a dress, or rather they picked it out. I picked the color. Done. So we get home and my mom tells me we can't do that dress because with tax and everything it was going to be too expensive. The other two bridesmaids had rich parents who were buying em, so it really was those two who were buying their own. I think the price tag ended up being $130 each. They picked out the dresses. I would assume if they couldn't afford it, they would've said so. Anyway, she's now telling me that I have to do the whole thing all over again because she's worried about the girls being able to afford it.
I had a total meltdown. I was 24 and bawling like a baby. I was so stressed out and now I'm going to have to get these two girls who hate each other back together and take another day off work and find some other dress when I didn't even want bridesmaids dresses to begin with. Finally she let it go and we did those dresses.
this whole thing with the minister. She didn't like the one I hired, so
she hired a second one. We had two ministers do the ceremony together.
Because for some reason that makes it different. She didn't want to fire the one I hired, but she wanted someone different. It was ridiculous. It looked dumb and we had to pay two ministers fees.
She kept buying wedding favors that I didn't want and that looked tacky. I'm not joking, we had like five different wedding favors.
I had this one song in my head that I always wanted at my wedding: Ave Maria. She hires the wedding singer. Fine. Then I find out this woman is a super religious woman who refuses to sing Ave Maria because it's against her beliefs. Gah. The ONE thing I wanted.
Then my mother in law changed the wedding date. She just told us that date wasn't going to work. It never occurred to me to run the date by her first. Is that what people do? I had already booked stuff and lost some security deposits changing things.
In the end, the wedding was beautiful (and despite all this complaining, I really do get along with my parents and in laws!), but I definitely should've gotten some xanax before starting the whole process!