That said. I've been talking to the man I'm about 90% sure is my youngest DD's BD. Pending the results of the DNA test What we've discussed is me keeping sole custody of DD, but I will take her to him for visitation, I'm not asking for child support or medical, I can provide all that and have been, but he has to help with the gas and room costs for visitation and once it goes to overnights he provides for her at his home. I live in Killeen, he lives in Houston, it's a 400 mile round trip for him to see her. He doesn't even want the DNA test, he's sure she's his, I'm insisting to be on the safe side.
He wants me to bring her to him, which is fine, but that means I have to find childcare for my other two kids and take time off from work. Is it fair for me to ask him for help to make visitation happen? I do want to make note that I really don't know him that well, (hence the bout of stupidity) I want to get to know him as well while DD does, just so I know she's safe with him.