Thanks to all the people who suggested I get a second opinion, and a big thank you to the person who suggested I look into the laser procedure for declawing.
Backstory: My cat has thickening of her nails and the sheaths are not coming away. 2 claws are ingrown. 1st doctor suggest a full declaw, all back claws, but insisted the 2 had to be removed.
Second doctor said a full declaw is extreme, but the 2 claws should come out. He said it is a chronic problem and really quite painful. She bit him twice and hissed at his assistant which is SO unlike her and she only did it when they tried to extend the 2 claws in question.
The 2nd doctor uses laser surgery to do it, so I booked her to have the 2 claws removed, she is going in tomorrow for it.
I am really upset and scared for my kitty but I just don't want her to feel pain anymore! :(