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Control your freaking kids!

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Tonight we went to a buffet for dinner. I expected it to be busy being a Friday night, so it was no surprise it was a little crowded. Not too bad though.

First incident: I was standing in line waiting to get my drink while SO took DS to find a table. All of a sudden, I get bumped kinda hard from behind. So I look to see who bumped me and a kid, around 7 or so, is walking away looking at me like he's waiting for me to apologize to him. When did it become ok to not teach our children manners? I bite my tongue and don't say anything. Just brush it off as poor parenting.

Second incident: DS and I are sitting alone at the table. I'm trying to feed him when a little girl comes up. She's maybe 3. She belongs to the family 2 tables behind me. She says hi to him and talks to him a little. Her family also has a baby, so at first its kinda cute. Then she leans in close to his face, looks at me, then coughs into her elbow. I think good her parents taught her some hygiene. She does this a couple more times as I'm trying to feed him. Then she leans into his face and tries to kiss him. I gently ask her not to get in his face. Shortly after she runs off, while I look around for her parents. They were sitting at the table the whole time. Didn't move to collect her. Nothing. Are there really parents that think this is ok? I don't want any stranger in my kids face, especially not your germy child.

What would you mamas have done? Would these things have annoyed you too? Do you ever wonder if people are ever actually teaching their kids anything these days?
Posted by Anonymous on Jan. 25, 2014 at 2:47 AM
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by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Jan. 25, 2014 at 10:41 AM
That's true. I don't know what his parents are trying to teach him, and I shouldn't assume, but the look he have me was pure "go to hell."

Yes, he is my only one. And I totally know it's not because of me. Lol. They only thing that keeps that kid calm is if there is food for him to eat. I expect there to be struggles later, especially cuz he is so independent. We'll adjust accordingly when the time comes.

While I agree most parents probably are trying, I know too many parents that let their kids walk all over them to know that some have given up or are too lazy to do their job as the parent.

Quoting markswife03: I think the parents of the little girl should have said something when she was messing with you and getting in your kid's face.

As for the older kid, an apology or something would have been nice but don't assume the parents allow rudeness. Sometimes kids get shy and don't always say what you have tried to teach them to say in these situations. It can be frustrating and embarrassing for the parents.

Is your one year old your only child? You make it seem simple now, as though he's relaxed because you did something right. However, it's likely you'll be dealing with more challenges as he gets older. My two little ones were pretty relaxed around one also, but they gradually developed a greater desire for independence and have attempted to test their limits more than before. I do believe parents should at least be attempting to keep their kids controlled, but it doesn't always mean they aren't doing their job if it doesn't sink in right away.
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Jan. 25, 2014 at 10:48 AM
He is, but i currently live with someone who, if they were to take their children out in public, it would have been awful. These children talk back, yell, cuss, hit, and act so entitled to everything, and their mother allows it, in public and in the house. That's the point of the post. I was truly wondering if so many parents have just given up, or if this is the work of the lazy few.

Quoting Anonymous: Is your one year old your only child? If so, this post makes a whole lot more sense. Come talk to me again when your kid is 3.
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