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He got my DD pregnant he will follow my rules EDIT/UPDATE

Anonymous
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17yr old DD is pregnant other then the obvious fact I am pissed off to the max I have decided to help out as much as we can. We will allow DD and her partner to move into our investment house and buy them a new suitable car but only if they follow these rules.

  1. DDs partner must take a job working 4 weeks away at a time with my DH, 4 weeks on site and 10days back home, its extremely good money.
  2. They must use that income to pay rent, bills, food and baby supplies and pay us back for the car.
  3. DD must finish college on time and have a career plan for their future.

If her partner will not take this job he is not allowed to move in with DD. In that case she will have free rent, bills and will not have to pay the car back AS LONG she is continuing college and finishes on time.

His family thinks we are being unreasonable? Are we?

 

ETA:

After reading all of these replies I would like to just say that her boyfriend has been out of school for going on 18 months and has not made a effort to go to college or even apply. Unlike DD who already has a part scholarship although she probably will not be able to take it now.

Posted by Anonymous on Jan. 26, 2014 at 7:27 AM
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MIA0223
by Emerald Member on Jan. 26, 2014 at 7:29 AM
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I think its great your DH an get him a job, but I would be flexable on that point.
That's a lot of time away from a new baby.
I would insist he have a job, but not say what job he will have.
The rest is more than fair!
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Justine1993
by Gold Member on Jan. 26, 2014 at 7:29 AM
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That sounds like a sweet fucking deal! Good for u for helping her! A lot of moms wouldn't! Good job :)
vilandra
by Member on Jan. 26, 2014 at 7:30 AM
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He needs to be responsible, I see nothing wrong with it
Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Jan. 26, 2014 at 7:30 AM
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I think it's unreasonable to expect him to work with your dh and be gone a month at a time....as long as he gets a job so he can support your dd and their baby that is what is important...what if the boy has plans to go on to college?
SRJ_40
by on Jan. 26, 2014 at 7:30 AM
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I agree everything but the job part.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on Jan. 26, 2014 at 7:31 AM
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what about his college or career future?
mommaFruFru
by Gold Member on Jan. 26, 2014 at 7:31 AM
how old is he?
zraunt
by Silver Member on Jan. 26, 2014 at 7:31 AM
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Quoting MIA0223: I think its great your DH an get him a job, but I would be flexable on that point.
That's a lot of time away from a new baby.
I would insist he have a job, but not say what job he will have.
The rest is more than fair!


kadensmomma0708
by Bronze Member on Jan. 26, 2014 at 7:32 AM
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Sounds like you are being more than reasonable, too reasonable actually.  But, if they think you are being too crazy, let them struggle.

Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Jan. 26, 2014 at 7:32 AM
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 The only reason we want him to take this job is because they can actually get somewhere with it, they wont struggle to pay the bills. If he was to get a job in this town he wouldnt get more then $6 a hour! this job is $41 a hour working in mines.

Quoting MIA0223: I think its great your DH an get him a job, but I would be flexable on that point.
That's a lot of time away from a new baby.
I would insist he have a job, but not say what job he will have.
The rest is more than fair!

 

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