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I'm so f#&%ing p!ssed....

Anonymous
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I was adopted in 1984 as an infant in a closed adoption.. my parents (who are white) raised me to be a proud African American.

When I was 16 I met my bio mom who is Welsh and Irish. Green eyes, redish hair.

This morning (I'm 29) she finally told me about my bio father. Turns out he's Cuban and Puerto Rican.

I feel like a fraud:/ It pisses me off that she is just now telling me, and on top of that she's refusing to give me his name.

I'm so fucking pissed.

Is there any way I can unseal my records without her? How could I find him?
Posted by Anonymous on Jan. 28, 2014 at 3:25 AM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Jan. 28, 2014 at 3:34 AM
Bump for advice
oneangrymother
by Silver Member on Jan. 28, 2014 at 3:34 AM
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You're loaded because of the heritage? Or because she just told you?

Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Jan. 28, 2014 at 3:35 AM
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So you're not African American at all? Baahaha I'm sorry that's fucking crazy
Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Jan. 28, 2014 at 3:35 AM
Both. And that she's with holding info on my birth father.

Quoting oneangrymother:

You're loaded because of the heritage? Or because she just told you?

Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Jan. 28, 2014 at 3:36 AM
Thanks.

Quoting Anonymous: So you're not African American at all? Baahaha I'm sorry that's fucking crazy
Bonnie_
by Gold Member on Jan. 28, 2014 at 3:37 AM

Do  you  know where she was living  when  she was dating him?


Sassy762
by CAFE SASSY HBIC on Jan. 28, 2014 at 3:38 AM

 

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Shy_Dia
by Ruby Member on Jan. 28, 2014 at 3:38 AM
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Sadly that's her right. She never had to meet you either. Sucks but true.


I'd personally find other ways to find my heritage- like dna testing or whatever. Maybe your mom has no idea who your real father is


Quoting Anonymous: Both. And that she's with holding info on my birth father.



Quoting oneangrymother:

You're loaded because of the heritage? Or because she just told you?

ElevenEleven
by Silver Member on Jan. 28, 2014 at 3:39 AM
The only adoptions I've ever dealt with weren't personal/family(they were friends), so I'm not any help. Here's a bump
RadnRem
by Gold Member on Jan. 28, 2014 at 3:40 AM
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I can imagine how that would make you feel like a fraud. Like you were stripped of a major aspect of yourself.....part of your identity

But your heritage doesn't make you who you are. And you aren't a fraud. You just haven't been informed.

What is it you would like to do with the info on your father?
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