I told my DD that if she gets pregnant she can NOT live with me
My ex and I have had a real struggle with rules we agree on. Well mostly I think my 16 year old DD should have rules and my ex thinks she shouldnt. He pretty much lets her do whatever she wants whenever including going out all night and having her boyfriend sleep over
Now I have been trying to talk to the both of them to get them to see reason. I really dont think a 16 year old has any business having sleepovers with her bf. There was ONE time I let him sleep over here but it was -12 degrees with 8 inches of snow and about 2 inches of ice on the ground and no one thought it was safe for anyone to be driving (they had come to my house to study because his mom wasnt able to pick him up because of the snow and we were hoping it would stop snowing but the road conditions were just terrible). DD slept in my room and her boyfriend slept in my DS's room. However I think an "emergency" situation is very different than every friday and saturday night
My DD uses that one time as a way to say that i am okay with sleepovers and I am not.
Well they not only sleep in the same house when she is with her dad they sleep in the same room in the same bed. Her dad has no problem with it. They ARE having sex (she told me). I told her I would go and get her on birth control but she doesnt want it. She said she will stick to condoms.
I have tried talking to her about it many many times and she just doesnt care.
The last time we talked I made it very clear that if she gets pregnant she will not be able to live with me anymore. I am not going to give her money, I am not going to help her with the baby, nothing. She got really mad at first but I think she thought things through because last weekend her bf didnt sleep over.
I know deep down she doesnt want a baby right now but she still thinks she is invincible and "nothing will happen to her" I think she realized that if she does she will be stuck with her dad the whole time. She loves her dad of course but she likes him a lot more because he has no real rules. I think that would not be fun if she was trying to raise a baby in his house. Hell I tried to raise a baby with his help and lets just say we are divorced for many reasons but his lack of help was one.