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my ex fil kept me in his will and now ex and family are pissed.

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 id shrugged off how my  ex fil said he was keeping me in his will  despite  his son walking out on me,  that  he loved me and my girls  that my girls (from my 1st marriage) were the closest thing to grandkids he had.   

 silly me  i just thought whatever with the will  thing, thats just talk people say. well it wasnt talk.  and he  passed away earlier this month.

 he and his daughter  were not that close, their mom bashed alot about their dad, snide comments all the time even years later after they had divorced, pretty much poisoning his sister  against  their dad, ex also said before he felt like he had to choose between his mom and dad.  most the time her and her dad were not speaking even, really was not things he said or did at all, she would blow him off alot, leave him hanging yet if there was money  just accept it and go. at times he was so frustrated he spoke of cutting her out of his will because she  just didnt put much of any effort into a relationship with him despite his trying so hard. id told him not to be hastey that it was a big move to do that. well aparently last few years when he was revising  his will even after me and his son divorced, he finnaly did  cut out his daughter. 

aparently  according to ex, his mom and his sister, his sister reconciled with him like 2 weeks before he died seeing and talking with him at christmas. and then   he got really sick and they didnt know and he suddenly died. he had heart failure and copd.... ex said he had moved in with him just 2 weeks before he died because he and his 2nd wife divorced.  he somehow  claimed not to see how sick his dad really had gotten.

 also his sister was in jail for a dui when their dad died. 

 now that its come about  that, his dad left me a benificiary as well as my ex, of his  money in the bank, the bank divided it, ex got his already,  well now pressure is on ex is asking for  what his dad left to me. his ssiter is asking for it too, saying it was supposed to be left things only to him and to her but he didnt get a chance to change his will, that i shouldnt be on his will,  that her car is totaled and needs money for legal fees.  its a cluster fuck.  my ex said he doesnt know yet if his dad also added me as a benificary on his life insurance with him as well,  so if thats so then it would be  split too.  but  his dad also left just my ex, his house, and 2  facny cars  new correvette and mustang i think they are.   plus the half of  bank accoutns, but yes ex may also be the only one on his dads life insurance!  only me and my ex were in his dads will!!!!  

  i hate people thinking badly of me, ive never crossed or wronged  their family  nor did i ever treat  my ex badly! hell i was a door matt and  blind  to his cheating ect.  i am accpeting  what he left me and respecting it was his wishes for me to have something from him.   but god this is going to be a nightmare from my ex and his sister and their mom. i dont know what to do or how to handle it, sure  they will hate and never want to speak to me again ever.

 what do i do?

 total with his dads estate i basically just got 1/3 and its only in liquid money.  i partly dont see why  my ex cant  give his sister  the life insurance or  even one of the cars he got which hes  trying to trade in  to get himself an suv . why is it only what his dad left me thats to be  torn apart?

Posted by Anonymous on Jan. 30, 2014 at 9:12 AM
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by Anonymous 2 on Jan. 30, 2014 at 9:16 AM
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Why does ex's family matter at all? This man choose to leave it to you and he didn't change his mind about it all in the last two weeks of his life that would have been awful quick and I don't believe it for a second. Pay them no mind.

by Ruby Member on Jan. 30, 2014 at 9:16 AM
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That was incredibly hard to read and follow, but he left it to you, it's yours.
by Bronze Member on Jan. 30, 2014 at 9:16 AM
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You keep what is legally yours. If your ex FIL wanted to change the will he would have. Don't listen to them trying to cheat you out of what he has left you. He wanted you and your girls to have this money, IMO.

by Platinum Member on Jan. 30, 2014 at 9:19 AM
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Don't give them anything. The vultures always come swooping in when there is a death in the family. They all scream Mine Mine Mine!!! Nope. His Will says what he wanted. Take it. Keep it. Invest it somehow. School or property or whatever. It's yours. If the son is so worried about his sister HE can give her part of HIS money.
by Anonymous 3 on Jan. 30, 2014 at 9:22 AM
If he left it to you, it's yours.
by Platinum Member on Jan. 30, 2014 at 9:22 AM
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He wanted you to have it. He told you as much. It's yours and it sounds like justifiably so. So keep it and inform your ex that if he keeps harassing you about it, you'll get the  police and your lawyers involved.

by Ruby Member on Jan. 30, 2014 at 9:22 AM
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why would you still even be in contact with your ex-MIL and SIL?  if they call, ignore it.  problem solved.  if ex-FIL wanted them to have anything, he would have made arrangements accordingly. 

so sad that his dd only got in touch with him for a handout, and then was estranged until (miraculously!) two weeks prior to his death, when they reconciled.  I wouldn't be giving any of the inheritance to anyone.  what I would do is put it in the bank until after taxes are computed, because if it's over a certain dollar amount you're going to owe on what you received.  I would consult a professional (CPA) to find out what the tax ramifications are before you spend a dime.  you don't want a $5,000 surprise bill next year when you file your taxes.

by Ruby Member on Jan. 30, 2014 at 9:22 AM
Stick with the wishes of the FIL and tell the rest of them you're sorry that this is the way it went but that's how dad wanted it.

It sounds like you were is daughter and treated him so. I think it's very sweet he left you the money and I wouldn't feel bad.
by on Jan. 30, 2014 at 9:23 AM
He left it to you, his choice. That's what I would tell them.
by Gold Member on Jan. 30, 2014 at 9:24 AM

I would make a college fund or donate it to charity, possibly both.  Then, I would never speak to my ex's relatives again.

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