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I had an abortion at 22 weeks *obviously graphic*

Posted by Anonymous   + Show Post

I see so many people saying they would NEVER get a late term abortion and i bet most of you would if you are in certain situations

In my case we noticed that there was something abnormal about the growth of the baby at about 14 weeks. The head and top of the chest were growing normal but the rest of the baby did not. By 18 weeks the top portion had grown like normal but nothing else had. I started see every single specialist I could and many doctors. By 22 weeks it was very apparent that there was nothing that could be done to fix it. The head was measuring at the right size, the heart was still beating, but the rest of the body was not growing. No internal organs had grown and when I was 22 weeks many of the tissues were necrotic.

If I did not get an abortion ASAP I would have become septic. Delivering the baby was not an option as it would have spread out the necrotic tissue and the baby would have not been all in one piece so there wouldnt have been much to deliver. 

Is there anyone who really would have not had an abortion in a situation like mine? 


Posted by Anonymous on Feb. 2, 2014 at 9:34 AM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Feb. 2, 2014 at 9:50 AM
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So your son has no internal organs and no lower portion of his body?

Quoting Mom-to-2kids: I was in that situation, my DS was diagnosed with fetal hydrops at 14 weeks. I was advised to abort and was told I had until 20 weeks to decide, so the procedure could be done by 23
Weeks...I didn't get the abortion because I felt my DS should have a chance. Even at 28 weeks when my water started leaking, again in was advised NOT to take excessive measures to save him. Again I refused...my DS was born at 29 weeks via c section weighing 5lbs 10oz and 15inches long. The drs at the hospital I was transferred to for his birth, didn't just stand by like the others would have. After 2 weeks on a vent he was taken off, weighing just over 2lbs. My DS will CELEBRATE his 8th birthday this year...


staci1103
by Gold Member on Feb. 2, 2014 at 9:50 AM
Quoting Anonymous:

They are not sure exactly why but all the blood was being shunted to the top part of the body. 

Quoting staci1103: So sorry u had to go through that:(( yes i would have done the same. Did they ever find out why thi happened? Chromosonal issues?

The only reason I ask is because my ds was dx assymetrical IUGR at 27 weeks. He had brain sparring, most of the blood flow was going to his brain, heart and adrenal glands. I was monitored very closely and thankfully we made it to 38 weeks but he had stopped growing ar 35. We do know this was caused by trisomy 22 but it was only in the placenta. Again im sorry:(


AliKatAK47
by Meanie Pants on Feb. 2, 2014 at 9:50 AM

Yep. It really is. 

Quoting Anonymous:

Oh.  How sad :-(

Quoting AliKatAK47:

Because the baby didn't have a bottom half and what was there was necrotic (that means dead). It was like someone living with a flesh eating disorder. They're alive, but their flesh and such is basically rotting off. 

Quoting Anonymous:

How would you have become septic?  The baby was still alive.  That doesn't make sense.




kristiansmommy1
by Amanda on Feb. 2, 2014 at 9:50 AM
I'm not sure, I'm sorry for your loss, I'm sure that was really hard on you :(
holyhoola
by Ruby Member on Feb. 2, 2014 at 9:50 AM
I would have. Thanks for sharing your story. God bless
j3st3r
by Jedi on Feb. 2, 2014 at 9:51 AM
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I'm pro choice. I believe that the rest of society needs to stay out of women's medical decisions.
SoInLove515
by Platinum Member on Feb. 2, 2014 at 9:51 AM
I'm sorry you had to go thru that. I'm sure it wasn't easy. I'm Thankful I have never had to make a decision as hard as that.
Syphon
by on Feb. 2, 2014 at 9:51 AM

 I don't know anyone who wouldn't have done the same as you.  Sorry for your loss

Anonymous
by Anonymous 10 on Feb. 2, 2014 at 9:51 AM
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Why was he 5 pounds at birth and 2 pounds after 2 weeks?

Quoting Mom-to-2kids: I was in that situation, my DS was diagnosed with fetal hydrops at 14 weeks. I was advised to abort and was told I had until 20 weeks to decide, so the procedure could be done by 23

Weeks...I didn't get the abortion because I felt my DS should have a chance. Even at 28 weeks when my water started leaking, again in was advised NOT to take excessive measures to save him. Again I refused...my DS was born at 29 weeks via c section weighing 5lbs 10oz and 15inches long. The drs at the hospital I was transferred to for his birth, didn't just stand by like the others would have. After 2 weeks on a vent he was taken off, weighing just over 2lbs. My DS will CELEBRATE his 8th birthday this year...
Mom-to-2kids
by Emerald Member on Feb. 2, 2014 at 9:52 AM
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I told you my story don't pick apart to fit your agenda. I was told my DS would die long before he would survive birth and even IF he did he would die shortly after. The drs told me due to the hydrops when he "expired" it would be a emergency situation because I would become septic very quickly

Quoting Anonymous:

So your son has no internal organs and no lower portion of his body?

Quoting Mom-to-2kids: I was in that situation, my DS was diagnosed with fetal hydrops at 14 weeks. I was advised to abort and was told I had until 20 weeks to decide, so the procedure could be done by 23

Weeks...I didn't get the abortion because I felt my DS should have a chance. Even at 28 weeks when my water started leaking, again in was advised NOT to take excessive measures to save him. Again I refused...my DS was born at 29 weeks via c section weighing 5lbs 10oz and 15inches long. The drs at the hospital I was transferred to for his birth, didn't just stand by like the others would have. After 2 weeks on a vent he was taken off, weighing just over 2lbs. My DS will CELEBRATE his 8th birthday this year...


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