Their dad however is boorish, racist, misogynistic and has zero patience for kids and is mean to my niece and my DD.
Then there's my MIL who is kind, patient, loving and great with the kids. But she has some looney relatives that take politics too far and get nasty if you don't agree with them. We had a big internet fight and stopped talking to them.
My dh wants to throw his sis a grad party inviting relatives from both sides of his family ( his dad's relatives are great). But I don't want to invest all this time and money when his dad is sure to ruin it, his mother's side will either ignore us altogeher or start a fight.
Not my idea of fun. Hubby says to suck it up because it's not about me. I realize that. But why should I spend all this time and money on an event that is going to be a nightmare?
I already had plans for that weekend to take my DD camping with her troop. I told DH that I wasn't going to give up the chance to have fun with DD just to be treated like sh#% by his family. I don't want to fight with my hubby. He's not in denial about his dad and relatives, he knows they'll be a-holes. But his sister lives across the country so he wants to make her happy.
What would you do?