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Is it selfish

Anonymous
Posted by Anonymous
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My grandpa died and I find myself not wanting to go to his funeral. The only reason being because I would have to deal with the family members that molested and raped me. Like I would be ok if DH was there but he isn't going to be there because he has to work. He just got onto this job like 2 months ago and cannot be missing days or being late or he could end up being fired at his 90 day eval so I won't risk it. These people like screwing with me on purpose during times like this. The last time I had to see them was at my grandmas funeral and I barley handled that but DH was there so I felt safe. My PTSD has been acting up so bad lately, this was before I found out all of this, and now the anxiety about this situation is making it worse.

Is it selfish of me to not want to go? I will likely still end up going because my immediate family will need my support but maybe I will just take a Xanax before I go so I don't end up having a panic attack or going the complete opposite direction and ending up in jail.

Posted by Anonymous on Feb. 5, 2014 at 4:50 PM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Feb. 5, 2014 at 4:57 PM

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Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Feb. 5, 2014 at 4:57 PM

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by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Feb. 5, 2014 at 4:57 PM

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by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Feb. 5, 2014 at 4:58 PM

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Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Feb. 5, 2014 at 4:58 PM

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by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Feb. 5, 2014 at 4:58 PM

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by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Feb. 5, 2014 at 4:58 PM

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couture-mommy
by 8.21.1831 on Feb. 5, 2014 at 4:59 PM
I wouldn't go.
You dont have to go to a funeral to pay your respect
JJJMommyKris
by Bronze Member on Feb. 5, 2014 at 4:59 PM
I don't think it's selfish to not go
brittybby2010
by on Feb. 5, 2014 at 4:59 PM

Not really, seeing as how you'd be very uncomfortable. Just go, for your grandpas sake, and be kind and supportive to the family that didn't violate you.

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