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I want to be a grandma so badly

Anonymous
Posted by Anonymous
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My daughter is 27 and got married 2 years ago.
I have two younger kids as well, who are 16 and 13. My daughter would be a great mom, I think.

She's going back to school to get her phd next year. She said she doesn't want to have kids until she gets her Phd, which will be 3-5 years, and until she's worked in her field for a few years. By the she'll be in her mid thirties-almost forty.

I obviously don't want to pressure her, but I feel like a lot of women out off having kids too long and then are surprised when conceiving or being an older mother isn't easy. Would you say something to her about this? How?
Posted by Anonymous on Feb. 6, 2014 at 9:15 AM
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P.V.Hawkwind
by Ruby Member on Feb. 6, 2014 at 9:17 AM
No, her body her choice.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Feb. 6, 2014 at 9:17 AM
This isn't about you. It's not her job to make you a grandmother on your timeline.

If she's intelligent enough to go for a PhD, she's intelligent enough to figure out the pros and cons of her family timing. Mid thirties also isn't "old" to be having a child.

No, you shouldn't say anything. It's truly none of your business.
a_bit_unhinged
by Platinum Member on Feb. 6, 2014 at 9:18 AM
I would not. Unless she asks your opinion, don't offer it.
Reproduction is a choice she and her husband should make alone.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Feb. 6, 2014 at 9:22 AM
Getting a PhD is time consuming, to say the least, and expensive. Why would you encourage her to have a kid in less than ideal circumstances?
BabyPink07
by Silver Member on Feb. 6, 2014 at 9:25 AM

I would. most don't know struggles of older moms. I wouldn't pressure her, but mention it IF it comes up. 

othermom
by Ruby Member on Feb. 6, 2014 at 9:34 AM

I wouldn't say anything

UxorQuodMatris.
by Ruby Member on Feb. 6, 2014 at 9:36 AM


Quoting a_bit_unhinged: I would not. Unless she asks your opinion, don't offer it.

Reproduction is a choice she and her husband should make alone.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Feb. 6, 2014 at 10:00 AM
Bump
LaDulceVida
by Bronze Member on Feb. 6, 2014 at 10:02 AM
You have two other kids so if the oldest waits until she's too old im sure one of the younger 2 are gonna give you grandchildren.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on Feb. 6, 2014 at 10:02 AM
Make the 16yo get pregnant.

~Sarcasm obviously.
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