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At a total loss. HELP!! WWYD??

Anonymous
Posted by Anonymous
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I came home to my SO YELLING at my 13 yo dd for almost 2 hours over being irresponsible (not taking care of her belongings, i.e., bookbag, water bottles, etc.). He and I had discussed how to handle this only 2 hours previously and we agreed there would be NO yelling because we both grew up in yelling households. I HATE yelling and he knows it. We decided to ground her or take belongings away and that this would take time. He agreed to all of this.

She was crying so hard and he was just sitting there in his recliner looking smug, and his 16 yo dd was sitting there not even helping her out, agreeing with him. (There is another problem all together, his dd has been yelled at her entire life and she thinks this is NORMAL, she just moved in with us to get away from her mother and step-father who yelled at her ALL the time). My dd told me that he called her names such as Queen Shit of Turdville, liar, selfish, spoiled. I WAS FUCKING FURIOUS!!! I told him that if he EVER did that to her again I would leave him. There is so much more to this story but I cannot add it all so if you have questions, please ask. I hope I did what I had to do to protect my daughter. She is my priority. We've been working on this with her for a long time and I feel that he hit his breaking point but that does NOT excuse his horrible behavior. I made him apologize to her and tell her exactly what it was he had done wrong. He cried and told us that he would never do it again and he didn't know why he did it.

I stand by my word though. I love him but I will NOT put up with this and I told my daughter that she comes first. She and I talked for a long time and went for a ride to the store to talk some more. He's gone with his dd talking with her because I told her it is troublesome to me that she feels this type of behavior from an adult is okay.

Children should NOT be yelled at, especially over inconsequential things like leaving your belongings out. She gets straight A's in school, is not a troublemaker, every one of her teachers loves her, she is respectful and mostly responsible, kind, compassionate, and caring. She's 13, he needs to lighten up!

Posted by Anonymous on Feb. 6, 2014 at 6:46 PM
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TiffanyRose06
by Queso<3 on Feb. 6, 2014 at 6:49 PM
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Good for you for sticking up for her
Fairywings1223
by on Feb. 6, 2014 at 6:49 PM

I wouldn't put up with it either. My kids come before anyone. I grew up in a yelling house and I don't like anyone doing it around my kids.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Feb. 6, 2014 at 6:49 PM
Oh no yelling
Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on Feb. 6, 2014 at 6:50 PM
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Way to undermine your SO and show your daughter that she can get away with continuing to act like a snot and just do whatever the hell she wants and there will be no consequences. I hope your SO leaves you. 

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Feb. 6, 2014 at 6:50 PM

Thanks, I feel like leaving now but I want to give him a chance to prove himself :(

Quoting TiffanyRose06: Good for you for sticking up for her


Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Feb. 6, 2014 at 6:51 PM

I don't agree, but you're entitled to your opinion. Did you not read the part where I said we talked? We talked about taking responsibility and the consequences if she didn't, but NO ONE will yell at my dd, EVER.

Quoting Anonymous:

Way to undermine your SO and show your daughter that she can get away with continuing to act like a snot and just do whatever the hell she wants and there will be no consequences. I hope your SO leaves you. 


almondpigeon
by Ruby Member on Feb. 6, 2014 at 6:52 PM
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I'm a yeller....but not a name caller. Calling a kid "queen shit of turdville" is unacceptable. Good for you for putting your foot down
abecee
by on Feb. 6, 2014 at 6:53 PM

We have to protect our children.  He was way over the line.  I hope for your dd's sake you've gotten through to him.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 4 on Feb. 6, 2014 at 6:53 PM
Is this her dad? If not, I'd be gone tonight. What a prick. Queen Shit of Turdsville? Really?
Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Feb. 6, 2014 at 6:53 PM
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I hate it *sigh* I just want to do this without the yelling, it can be done. Yelling is not going to happen in my house!

Quoting Fairywings1223:

I wouldn't put up with it either. My kids come before anyone. I grew up in a yelling house and I don't like anyone doing it around my kids.


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