I make stews, chilis, pasta dishes ect. a lot from scratch because ds loves them. I send them for his lunches with 2 snacks, a type of fruit and something sweet, either homemade rice pudding, or yogurt. Sometimes it's crackers, or some cheese, or pretzels. And of course, a juice box. I also put in a little note everyday. Just a simple, "I love you." "Be your best" or "Keep on being amazing". You get the idea.
So anyhow. I made spaghetti squash with red sauce and cheese today for dinner. Like usual, I made extra so ds can take it to school with him. He asked me what I packed, I told him. Spaghetti squash, watermelon pieces and some yogurt in a tupperware container. He said "oh, Dante is going to make fun of me again."
I asked why, ds said "because he always does when you send lunches like that." huh?
So I asked him, " well what does Dante bring to school for lunch?" He told me sandwiches.
Now there is nothing wrong with sending sandwiches to school, I do it too! Heck, there is nothing wrong with doing it everyday even. But this kid is picking on ds. So I told him "The next time he picks on you for having homemade lunches, tell him 'at least my mom loves me enough to make me a lunch and not just send boring sandwiches everyday'"
I think it is weird as hell I have to say this... But I am not packing a second lunch for this random kid. Why in god's name would I feed someone else's child??? That is not my responsibility. He has a mother, she can feed him. I work very hard to earn money to provide the food my son and I want to eat. My kitchen is not a charity soup kitchen.
Also, if I was sending sandwiches for lunch and my kid was being a derp and being mean to a kid for having homemade lunches and I found out the mom started sending lunch for my kid I would be PISSED.
First off, I don't want strangers feeding my kid. Secondly, I would not want my kid rewarded for acting like a jerk. There is nothing wrong with sandwiches for lunch. NOTHING. And I would not want my ungrateful envious kid getting his own way by acting out and picking on others.