My son is 16. A few weeks ago he wanted me to start letting his gf stay the night. I said no and he responded with "dad lets me do it" of course I was pissed. I called my ex and we all had a sit down. It ended up with them saying that i was too prude, over controlling, and my ex said that DS should come live with him full time.
DS of course agreed. I met with my lawyer to see what could be done and it turns out that my DS gets to pick where he lives. I tried to see if anything could be done about the sleepover but nothing can be. Because DS is over the age of consent it isnt illegal and even though my ex allows it they dont consider him unfit for it
Well my ex found out the same thing and next month we are going in front of a judge. They said there is a less than 1% chance of winning custody unless i can prove my ex is unfit (which he isnt) or if I show that my son is not mentally capable of making the decision which he isnt.
I have just been crying all the time over it. I talked to my ex saying that he could live there and to just leave the custody alone but he doesnt want to.
I have never felt so heartbroken