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My teen DD just told me she has herpes

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She is 17. I am so heart broken for her. It turns out it was her ex bf. He told her to get tested and sure enough she has it.

I can't help but feeling really disappointed. We have a had the sex talk many times. We have talked about stds. Sure condoms are a huge part about safe sex but so is making sure your partner does not STDs.

She hasn't told her dad yet and doesn't want to. I don't think it really is any of his businesses though

Gosh what a tough way to learn a lesson

Posted by Anonymous on Feb. 9, 2014 at 8:24 PM

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by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Feb. 9, 2014 at 8:31 PM

BUMP!

by Anonymous 2 on Feb. 9, 2014 at 8:31 PM

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You can still get herpes with condoms....

Her life is not over...in a year or 2 she will probably never have an out break again.

I have had maybe 6 outbreaks in 20 years, and none for a very long time. It really is no big deal.

by Anonymous 3 on Feb. 9, 2014 at 8:33 PM

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She can still pass it on even when she is showing no sign of an outbreak. She needs to be upfront with future sexual partners...that is the responsible thibg to do.

by Anonymous 4 on Feb. 9, 2014 at 8:33 PM

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Apparently today is herpes day on mc.

by Anonymous 5 on Feb. 9, 2014 at 8:34 PM

I've had it 5 years and get an OB every month. You're freaking lucky!!!!

OP I am so sorry for your DD. And no she doesn't have to tell her dad unless she wants to. No one but me, my husband, and my mom know I have it. Just be understanding and try to be positive. She doesn't need you feeling sorry for her. Give her pamphlets and get tons of information for her to help her get through all of this.

Quoting Anonymous:
You can still get herpes with condoms....
Her life is not over...in a year or 2 she will probably never have an out break again.
I have had maybe 6 outbreaks in 20 years, and none for a very long time. It really is no big deal.

by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Feb. 9, 2014 at 8:34 PM

Yes...that is why I said they are a big part of being protected but you still need to make sure your partner is STD free

Sure she will still live a normalish life but herpes has a stigma. Also everyone at her school knows and there are rumors starting

Quoting Anonymous:
You can still get herpes with condoms....
Her life is not over...in a year or 2 she will probably never have an out break again.
I have had maybe 6 outbreaks in 20 years, and none for a very long time. It really is no big deal.

by Anonymous 6 on Feb. 9, 2014 at 8:34 PM

I was thinking same thing

Quoting Anonymous:
Apparently today is herpes day on mc.

by Anonymous 7 on Feb. 9, 2014 at 8:34 PM

wow... her dad doesnt need to know??? did u need to know? he is a parent also.. on the same level as you... WOW!!

by Anonymous 8 on Feb. 9, 2014 at 8:35 PM

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Yes herpes is a big deal sorry to burst your bubble. Wtf!?

Quoting Anonymous:
You can still get herpes with condoms....
Her life is not over...in a year or 2 she will probably never have an out break again.
I have had maybe 6 outbreaks in 20 years, and none for a very long time. It really is no big deal.

by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Feb. 9, 2014 at 8:35 PM

She wanted to tell me she doesnt want to tell her dad.