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I'm I wrong for not wanting my husband there when I give birth?

Anonymous
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We are currently making our birth plan for our first. We are planning a natural water birth. It will be me and my best friend in the tubwith her at my back. My husband and pretty much everyone else I talk to about this says I'm being selfish, but my husband is so high strung and lacks all ability to calm himself down. I just flat out dont want him there with me and forcing me to worry about him and his feelings instead of myself. Hes making me feel like I'm being mean and petty about this and trying to take the moment of our first child's birth away from him.

Am I wrong for this? Of course he will be the first person receive.
Posted by Anonymous on Feb. 11, 2014 at 8:57 AM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Feb. 11, 2014 at 8:58 AM
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I never understood why men started being in the birthing rooms anyways.
levansbx
by Gold Member on Feb. 11, 2014 at 8:59 AM
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hmmm....I think that's harsh. let him be there bit lay ground rules. you can always kick him out if he gets out of control.
angelchewning
by on Feb. 11, 2014 at 9:00 AM

 aww i think this is sad, but it IS ultimately your choice.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on Feb. 11, 2014 at 9:01 AM
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Weird.  I would never allow a friend in and not my husband.  I would say if you aren't going to have the baby's father in there with you, then no one should be in there with you.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Feb. 11, 2014 at 9:01 AM
I think its a good thing if the father is a benifit and not a hassle.

Quoting Anonymous: I never understood why men started being in the birthing rooms anyways.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 4 on Feb. 11, 2014 at 9:01 AM
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I think it is sad you're not letting him be involved in his child's birth.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 5 on Feb. 11, 2014 at 9:01 AM
Have you told HIM WHY you don't want him there ?
Anonymous
by Anonymous 6 on Feb. 11, 2014 at 9:02 AM
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HIre a doula-she will have the experience and training to help keep your husband under control.

She is there for you, and that includes getting the wayward husband back on track (as in telling him what todo!)

Get your husband on board and let him have a final say in who you hire!

smorgan865
by Ruby Member on Feb. 11, 2014 at 9:03 AM
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He was there when you made it, he should be there when it's born.

Dads have a great bond with children too, I'd NEVER take away those first moments from my DH. Never in a million years. I actually was induced with my first one so he wouldn't miss it.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 7 on Feb. 11, 2014 at 9:03 AM

Any reason your husband isn't currently taking classes so he could be of help during the birth?

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