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Overachieving Pinterest Moms Should Stop Making Valentines for Their Kids!‚Äč

Posted by on Feb. 11, 2014 at 8:59 AM
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Overachieving Pinterest Moms Should Stop Making Valentines for Their Kids‚Äč

by Jeanne Sager

child's valentineValentine's Day is nearly upon us, and you know what that means. All across the land, little kids have spent recent hours painstakingly printing out the names of their little friends on paper hearts, and in just a matter of days these little cuties who have put heart and soul into crafting their love notes for their pals are about to be upstaged ... by parents.

You know which parents I'm talking about. They spent hours on Pinterest, scrolling through idea after idea after idea, on the hunt for the cleverest and cutest of Valentines. Hours more were wasted in the craft store, dragging exhausted children into "just one more aisle" before they headed home, plopped the kids in front of the TV and got to work ... on their kids' Valentine's Day cards

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The fruits of their labor will be stunning, I'm sure. No globs of glue or dribbles of paint in sight. They will come home in my daughter's backpack, and as I paw through the pile of Valentines, they will stand heads and tails above the others in terms of "quality."

And yet, I will know they did not come from any of her pals. No 8-year-old I've met has ever crafted anything that I've seen on Pinterest (at least nothing that gets repinned on the regular).

Which is why these beauties will be shifted immediately to the bottom of the pile as I ooh and ahh over the misshapen hearts and the store-bought cartoon-covered rectangles with bad penmanship. The worse the cards look, the more sure I'll be that they came from a a kid like mine, a kid who cared enough to put a little time and effort into making their friend smile.

Isn't that the point of Valentine's Day when you're 8? They're way too young to pin any romantic notions to February 14.

At 6, 7, 8, 9, even 10, the point of handing out Valentines to their classmates is still supposed to be about friendship ... and kindness. But what, exactly, is kind about waltzing into class with a backpack full of picture perfect crafts your mom Martha'd up over the weekend? It's not thoughtful in the least.

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And it certainly doesn't make the kids who spent hours on their cards feel terribly appreciated.

It's not that I'm against homemade cards, folks. Far from it. I'm a Pinterest junkie of the first degree, myself, and I found more than a half dozen projects that were perfect for kids to make this holiday. I don't even have a problem with parents who help their kids with their Valentines -- it can be a great family bonding project.

Only, the key word here is "help." Not do. Help. If you want your kids to actually get anything out of Valentine's Day besides a stomach ache from all that candy, you'll back off ... and stop making our kids' creations look bad.

But then, our kids come by their messy cards honestly ...

How much help do you give your kids with their Valentines?

by on Feb. 11, 2014 at 8:59 AM
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mich2.0
by on Feb. 11, 2014 at 9:05 AM
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I am having a love affair with Pinterest but the extent of help I gave my 5 year old with Valentines for his class is taking him to the store so he could pick out the ones he wanted and handing him a list of his classmates names. 

mama_church
by Member on Feb. 11, 2014 at 9:05 AM

I always wanted to be that mom, but I am not good at any kinds of crafts.  I buy the cards with their favorite characters and help them write the names. :/

justpeachy71904
by peachy on Feb. 11, 2014 at 9:06 AM
Im a pinfailer

Ugh
Liastele
by Lauren on Feb. 11, 2014 at 9:07 AM
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I paid for the pre-made cards at the store? She addressed them all and added candy. Good enough.

PinkButterfly66
by Emerald Member on Feb. 11, 2014 at 9:08 AM
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When my kid was in grade school yeah I did.  One year we went crazy with foam hearts, gems and glitter!  We had a lot of fun.

catcameback
by Ruby Member on Feb. 11, 2014 at 9:10 AM

I help, I buy the supplies and give ds the instructions on how to put the card together.  But ds puts it together and picked the treats.  The only exception is, I made the teacher's basket.  DS definately helped me pick the stuff, but I guided him heavily (he wanted to give his teachers gum and push-up candy, I gave them chocolates and coffee)

elephantmamaof2
by Ruby Member on Feb. 11, 2014 at 9:11 AM

That's exactly our plan as well. And I agree, good enough! A box of cards is $3, I could never imagine spending tons of money to craft beautiful valentines for school. Because you know what I do when ds brings them home? We look over them, oooh & aww for a bit, then they go in the garbage. Seriously, nobody saves that stuff.

Quoting Liastele:

I paid for the pre-made cards at the store? She addressed them all and added candy. Good enough.


skitskidaddle
by on Feb. 11, 2014 at 9:14 AM

 no pinterest for me, valentines day is fine tho

dawnrothbaum
by Bronze Member on Feb. 11, 2014 at 9:18 AM

I love Pinterest. Love love love it. I bought my son a box of wonka fundips, and helped him write the names on each one because it's a little difficult to write clearly on the portion that contains the stick. That is all that is needed from me.

jltplk25
by Bronze Member on Feb. 11, 2014 at 9:18 AM

 I bought the boxed premade cards that my kids picked out. DS, 7, will write his classmates' names on them and I'll do the ones for my 3 year old. I don't see the point in putting that much time and effort into something that is going straight into the trash can at the end of the day.

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