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Sex Ed and Kids

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So what's your opinion?  How will you go about this?

I only have boys, ages 11 and 8.  I began talking to them about sex and contraception when my oldest was 8.  The door was opened rather unexpectedly.  I guess my oldest caught his dad watching porn when they were visiting (I'm divorced from him, have been since my youngest was 13 months, we have shared custody).  I wasn't happy about it, but it did allow me to have a rather frank conversation.  Now, my oldest knows what a condom is and the basics about sex.  He's still at an age where he thinks it's gross and I'm ok with that.  My youngest doesn't know as much, but I have started talking to him about it a little.  I've told them both not to trust a girl if she says she's on birth control.  No matter what, to always cover themselves, literally.  I will provide them with condoms.  Sorry, but I will make sure that they're covered with that.  I hope that, by talking to them young, they'll know that they can come and say, "It's about that time, Mom" and we can go from there. 

I'll probably get bashed for this.  I think that if I talk to my kids about it, make then comfortable knowing that they can talk to me about anything, that maybe, just maybe, I can help avoid a girl getting into trouble.  I know that condoms break and things happen.  I'm also teaching my boys that, if they do happen to get a girl pregnant, that they WILL step up and take responsibility.  That means getting a job and paying for half of everything, no matter what age they are.

I'm not encouraging them to have sex any time soon.  On the contrary, I hope they wait until they're 30.  However, if and when they do decide to take that step, I'll have done what I can to educate them.

What about you?

Posted by Anonymous on Feb. 14, 2014 at 2:29 AM
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ramalamasp
by on Feb. 14, 2014 at 2:32 AM
I have two boys. My oldest is 6, so we haven't really had any talks like that yet, but we will. I will be totally open and frank with them about everything. I believe in education and contraception and being open with my children.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Feb. 14, 2014 at 2:35 AM

BUMP!

Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Feb. 14, 2014 at 2:36 AM

I was very frank and open with my kids too and gave them condoms (Which I found out they passed on to their friends lol)  I had an anatomy book as was going to show them a picture of a vagina but they said no just draw a picture mom lol!  My eldest had some weird idea that a tube came out of a women's vagina and sucked in the penis - too funny

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