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Is it possible...

Posted by on Feb. 14, 2014 at 11:22 PM
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To remain civil with your ex when sharing child custody? Nine years after my daughter was born, he is going to meet her for the first time. He and I hadn't spoken since two days before she was born and surprisingly everything is going well. We agree to co-parent her the way I don't think would have been possible 9 years ago. We are both married and have other children and have grown up. So..do you think it will last?
by on Feb. 14, 2014 at 11:22 PM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 on Feb. 14, 2014 at 11:25 PM
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You're going to let a stranger to your DD have an equal parenting role?

Lorelai_Nicole
by Lorelai on Feb. 14, 2014 at 11:25 PM

My ex and I share custody of our 14yo DD and it's great. We broke up shortly after she was born, and he was pretty sketchy on his visitation and stuff for a long time. It wasn't until he met the woman who is now his wife, and grew up, that we were able to become friends and co-parent effectively; this happened about 5 or so years ago.

So yes, it can be done. If you've both grown up like you say, then there shouldn't be a problem.

Alexis Emma 10-13-1999 - 14 years old
Kirsten Leslie 03-14-2004 - 9 years old
Sarah Mackenzie 08-14-2007 - 6 years old
Charlotte Amelia & Harmon David 04-12-2012 - 21 months old
Angela Victoria 06-09-1996 - 17 years old (niece) 

mem82
by Platinum Member on Feb. 14, 2014 at 11:28 PM
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I co parent with my ex fine. I will admit, I make most, ok all, of the decisions and have primary custody. He doesn't do much but hang out with her, kind of like an uncle. 12 years later, things are still basically smooth.

amnewlon8982
by on Feb. 14, 2014 at 11:36 PM
I did not get to decide that. The court did. She won't be having overnight visits for almost a year. It's happening in baby steps.

Quoting Anonymous:

You're going to let a stranger to your DD have an equal parenting role?

amnewlon8982
by on Feb. 14, 2014 at 11:51 PM
Bump...
amnewlon8982
by on Feb. 15, 2014 at 3:44 AM
No one?
sweettea1985
by Silver Member on Feb. 15, 2014 at 4:04 AM
I split from my ex after 10 years... ds was 1... I have primary custody and make all the decisions.. but i tell him about it and ask his opinion.. but overall I make the final decision.
He gets ds 4 days a month.. and we get along 97% of the time.
PandTsmomjuly
by on Feb. 15, 2014 at 4:09 AM

Been split with my XH for 3 years and it's kinda touch and go whether we get along.

Some days I want to kill him for his special brand of stupid, some days we can play nice.

Right now, I want to kill him. :P

lulalacroix
by on Feb. 15, 2014 at 4:14 AM

Yes, it can work.  You both have to respect each other and behave in a civil manner.

PoisonEyeV
by on Feb. 15, 2014 at 4:16 AM

Obviously it's possible. You're doing it....


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