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Loss of Baby gift?

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What sort of gift do you give when someone loses an infant? Flowers are the "norm" but they're 3000 miles away and I don't want to take the chance on something going wrong (crappy arrangement, etc.). I found a beautiful windchime and candle holder that I think would be nice, but I don't want to just order it online and have it shipped to them, I want to send something myself with a personalized note. I'm having the damnedest time even thinking of places I could go locally to find something. Any ideas, ladies?

Posted by Anonymous on Feb. 16, 2014 at 10:13 AM
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by on Feb. 16, 2014 at 10:39 AM
That sounds like a really stupid reason to get a gift.
by Ruby Member on Feb. 16, 2014 at 10:40 AM

 yes a necklace with birthstone and/or childs name something like that would be something I would eventualyl get for myself so if someone got it for me I would definatly wear it.

Quoting Anonymous: If you call the funeral home- usually they can recommend the florist they partner with so you know they will be taken care of. For an infant loss- me personally I would think something that could be worn close but wouldn't make people ask questions- like a necklace with the birthstone on it maybe with the name inscribed on the back


by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Feb. 16, 2014 at 10:41 AM

lol really? wow okay, thanks for your input

Quoting SaratheN: That sounds like a really stupid reason to get a gift.

by on Feb. 16, 2014 at 10:44 AM
Also if u have access to some baby photos a shadow box that they can add little things too is really nice. A small poem ..few photos etc

Quoting Anonymous:

yeah that's true, I didn't think of it that way

Quoting svolkov: You do something to comfort mom and it will help dad too. Men aren't as comforted by materiak gifts kwim?

Quoting Anonymous:

that's nice for the mom, yeah, but the dad, too. I was trying to think of something that would be for the both of them if possible instead of doing separate things, you know?

Quoting imthatgirl0607:

When my cousin lost her twins all of my aunts and uncles got together and bought her a beautiful necklace with the names on it. It was a smaller style necklace with very tiny print, sort of like a secret that they were always right there. 

by Gold Member on Feb. 16, 2014 at 10:46 AM
I really like the wind chime idea. Have the baby's name engraved on one of the chimes. Ship it in a keepsake box so they can have it to store other memorabilia that reminds them of their little one. So sorry for your families loss. :-(
by Gold Member on Feb. 16, 2014 at 10:47 AM
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Good God!!! Do you EVER have anything positive to say?? Wtf is wrong with you???

Quoting SaratheN: That sounds like a really stupid reason to get a gift.
by on Feb. 16, 2014 at 10:52 AM

Well if it helps I found a sympahthy card at the 99 cent store too. Yes Hallmark will have something. Promise. GL

Quoting Anonymous:

yeah there's a hallmark store about half a mile from here (I have no clue what their hours are and they aren't listed online) but looking at the website it didn't look like they had all too much as far as sympathy goes, but maybe if I go in they'd have something. I'm just...... normally I'm very good at stuff like this, but then it's family that's so far away and I'm at a loss

Quoting sunnysideup89:

Oh my that is sad!!! 

Hallmark has nice things for that. I dont know if they have that in your state. 

I like the windchime idea, with a card. Very sweet. Just buy it in your home town then ship all together. 

*Prayers all around*

by Silver Member on Feb. 16, 2014 at 10:53 AM
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What about sending a tree they can plant? There are companies online.
by Bronze Member on Feb. 16, 2014 at 10:59 AM

Lovely stuff here. Never thought of giving a memorial gift.  It's really a wonderful idea.

Quoting SexyBurlapSaLoveck:

La Belle Dame Infant Loss Jewelry

by on Feb. 16, 2014 at 11:01 AM
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When a good friend lost her son, another friend and I went online to a site where you can name a star. We named it after the baby and they sent her a certificate and a star map so she could find her baby boy in the sky <3
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