so i have this girl i been friends with for over 15 yrs. she got married 10 yrs ago but i been sleeping with her husband for the past 8 yrs. him and i have 2 kids together; she is their godmother and knows nothing about it she thinks i got pregnant with one night stands. he such a great guy though he sees his kids regularly, support them financially, and helps me out with my rent and bills. my problem is he has the divorce papers but he isnt sure of how to go about telling her whether it should be him, me, or we sit and tell her together. we're just trying to avoid a complete falling out from happening any suggestions?