I ask b/c I've always told my kids to not hit back, that the only time it's OK is if they actually really have to defend themselves. On the few occasions where my kids have hit, not punched just more of a slap, each other I have punished them both. But now it seems like they are afraid to stand up for themselves.
DS has always been much taller and bigger than other kids his age, so I really had to stress this on him ever since he was little b/c there has been times with friends kids that the other kid would hit my son, which wouldn't hurt my son physically that much, mostly would just make him mad, but when he would hit back it would really hurt the other kid so the other kid would come crying to his mom. So we would hear how my son hit him, but my son wouldn't be crying or even have a mark so I would usually put him in the corner and make him apologize. The other kids usually got off Scott free I guess the other parent felt like the hit they got from my son was punishment enough. Sorry, I'm rambling. But I'm concerned now b/c DS really seems like he's afraid now of standing up for himself for fear of getting in trouble. He even told that to me when I found out one of his friends kept hitting him in the leg and even though DS told him to stop he never hit him back. Idk, have I taught him right b/c he is following what I've taught him or have I made him a target for a bully? What do you teach your kids?