How the hell are we supposed to go visit you when we are not on speaking terms???
So my SIL and I last summer got in a big fight over stupid shit. It spun OUT OF CONTROL. She got mad over dumb shit because she was pregnant and full of hormones. I tried to apologize over, and over. She said my apologizes were "half hearted" and she would not accept them. I finally gave her a piece of my mind and told her to fuck off and a bunch of other really hurtful shit because frankly she is not mother of the year. And I probably should have kept my mouth shut because she had JUST married into the family like literally just married in a month before she was already preggers when her and DH's brother got married.
Anywho, she has the baby a couple weeks ago.
So first of all I got yelled at for not attending the shower. Well gee, I saw her at Thanksgiving. I got ICE GLARES, and she gave my kid dirty looks. DH and I told MIL this and she said I was imagining things poor SIL would never do that. (She really likes SIL a lot even though she is new into the family, she has a lot of health problems, and stuff and it was mean of me to ever tell her what I was thinking in the first place and blah blah blah and even though I tried to reapologize she had yet to forgive me so I am still the bag guy)
So I saw her AGAIN at Christmas once again, ice cold, dirty looks, pissed off fucking bitch.
So her baby shower obviously came, so why would I go to the shower of someone who won't speak to me?
So now I am getting phone calls from MIL to DH and I that DH's brother new baby is like 3 weeks old now and we are the only people in the family who have NOT gone over to their house to see their baby.
Umm they WILL NOT SPEAK TO US.
We explained this to her.
She said she won't get in the middle, but we need to go visit.
How do you visit someone's house who you are not welcome because they hate you?
So should we just send a fucking congrats card and hope we get an invite over? Because I am NOT going to THEIR home without an invite. The baby shower SHE did not invite me to, DH's sister did and she did not realize how much SIL still hates me thus why I was invited.
WTF is appropriate here?