Eventually this all came out and he stopped smoking and took up chewing tobacco. He really quit using all tobacco briefly when our son was born but it didn't last long and he was soon hiding cigarettes and chewing tobacco. This had continued in cycles ever since.
I am so fucking sick of it. I've got an 8 year old who idolizes his Dad. No amount of anti-tobacco education at school and warnings from me will have an impact if his father chews. AND I'm paying hundreds in prescriptions for DH (blood pressure meds, inhalers, allergy meds, cholesterol meds, etc). Why are we wasting money prolonging his life while he is simultaneously wasting money on tobacco?!
I know that an addict can't quit until they are ready and all that bullshit, but I am done with this now!