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$1300?? is he kidding me?

Posted by Anonymous   + Show Post
SO is a freaking idiot with bills and money.

I. On the other hand, am super paraniod about stuff and stay on top of everything.

He let the power get turned off in the house, again.

What's the price to get it turned back on? $1300!

Of course, he doesn't have the $$ so he expects me to pay it.

He got paid 2 weeks ago. He got a profit sharing check last week from work to the tune of $6k. He got paid today.

He makes 3x as much as I do.

How in the fuck does he not have the money????

I am trying to leave him. I can't wait to leave him.

I have to pay to have it turned on because my kids need power. But I'm so angry pissed and hurt.

Now, before anybody says anything....this is the ONLY bill he has monthly.

I pay for the cell phones, I pay the cc, I pay for the household needs and what the kids need. I pay for the car, insurance and gas.

He has 1 bill he is responsible for paying on time!
Posted by Anonymous on Feb. 21, 2014 at 12:29 PM
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Unbeknownst
by Member on Feb. 21, 2014 at 12:36 PM

Either gain control of his bill money when it comes in (a larger portion than what he has right now if he's making more than you are) and make sure things get paid on time, or leave him now/kick him out (since you're paying the bills anyway) and chalk that part of your life up to a lesson learned. 

Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Feb. 21, 2014 at 12:37 PM
I can't move out like that.

I don't have enough savings and I don't have enough credit with the house on my credit to qualify for an apartment

I have been looking for a place that is through an individual so they don't check my credit but it's hard

Quoting Anonymous: Then why don't YOU move out? Even though the house is in both names (assuming is a mortgage) just go file the deeds to absolve yourself. You can move out before this happens. It happens a lot during regular divorces. If its a lease, go speak to the landlord and take your name off. Why would you continue to let him f you over?



Quoting Anonymous: Can't, the house is in both our names.





Working on everything with a lawyer.





I don't want the house.





Quoting Anonymous: If you're paying all the bills anyway, tell him gtfo...now.
Serabeth06
by on Feb. 21, 2014 at 12:37 PM

 6 grand on an ipad and accessories? Nope. He's either hiding it from you, or giving it to someone else. I'd seriously tell him to come up with the $1300 or find somewhere else to sleep for the night.

Quoting Anonymous: He is blowing it.

He bought himself a new ipad, and all the bits and pieces to go with it......

He is constantly buying electronics.

But I wouldn't be surprised if he is hiding a lot from me either.

I think he is doing.it partly as a way to control me.

Quoting Serabeth06:

....Wow. He's either hiding money from you, blowing it on something, or there's something serious going on there. o.O

 

kaylamom2004
by on Feb. 21, 2014 at 12:38 PM

Sounds like he's already left you ... and left you holding all the bills.

Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Feb. 21, 2014 at 12:39 PM
I'm not saying the ipad costs 6k I know it doesn't.

I was just using it as an example of crap he is blowing it on

Quoting Serabeth06:

 6 grand on an ipad and accessories? Nope. He's either hiding it from you, or giving it to someone else. I'd seriously tell him to come up with the $1300 or find somewhere else to sleep for the night.


Quoting Anonymous: He is blowing it.

He bought himself a new ipad, and all the bits and pieces to go with it......

He is constantly buying electronics.

But I wouldn't be surprised if he is hiding a lot from me either.

I think he is doing.it partly as a way to control me.


Quoting Serabeth06:

....Wow. He's either hiding money from you, blowing it on something, or there's something serious going on there. o.O


 

Serabeth06
by on Feb. 21, 2014 at 12:41 PM

 I know, I get it. My ex-husband did the same thing before I left his sorry ass. One day a laptop would come home, then an iPod, then an Ipad, then a game system, then a TV. It's bullshit. With my SO, we have joint accounts. He's adult with money, and so am I, and we're both accountable for making sure the bill money is in the account on time.

Quoting Anonymous: I'm not saying the ipad costs 6k I know it doesn't.

I was just using it as an example of crap he is blowing it on

Quoting Serabeth06:

 6 grand on an ipad and accessories? Nope. He's either hiding it from you, or giving it to someone else. I'd seriously tell him to come up with the $1300 or find somewhere else to sleep for the night.


Quoting Anonymous: He is blowing it.

He bought himself a new ipad, and all the bits and pieces to go with it......

He is constantly buying electronics.

But I wouldn't be surprised if he is hiding a lot from me either.

I think he is doing.it partly as a way to control me.


Quoting Serabeth06:

....Wow. He's either hiding money from you, blowing it on something, or there's something serious going on there. o.O


 

 

Anonymous
by Anonymous on Feb. 21, 2014 at 12:41 PM
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Too bad you didn't marry him. Then you would be entitled to make him split things with you. Now you'll be screwed.

mojogirl
by Gunnery Sgt Hartman on Feb. 21, 2014 at 12:42 PM

you mean your stbxSO, right?

Anonymous
by Anonymous on Feb. 21, 2014 at 12:43 PM
If he makes 3x more than you, why do you pay most of the bills? I wouldn't want to be married to that irresponsible selfish asshat either.
kitty8199
by Ruby Member on Feb. 21, 2014 at 12:44 PM
Hopefully you can get out of the mortgage and go
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