As a kid I was expected to pretty much raise my youngest sister and I have a lot of resentment and issues due to that but now I am finding myself asking my oldest to watch her youngest sibling. She is not by any means raising her. My oldest is 17 and my youngest is 7. She watches her mostly so I can run to the store or something usually because my youngest doesn't want to go with me and neither does the oldest. My oldest says its fine and she really doesn't mind. I always pay her if DH and I go on date night or like tonight I am meeting a girlfriend for dinner that I haven't seen in a while and she will be watching her sister, again she doesn't mind and I will pay her and order pizza for all of them but I still feel terribly guilty. How often is it appropriate to ask your older child to watch the youngest? I have found myself forcing all my kids to go with me places they dont want to go because I am so worried about leaving them too often. Growing up I didn't get to have a social life because I was watching my sister. My daughter tells me its no different than having a job because I do pay her and my youngest pretty much entertains herself but I still feel guilty. I dont know what is appropriate and whats not. Any feedback would be helpful.