what would it be like to be undefined by your kids?
My cousin has a very different way of parenting. It's not bad. It's good, in its own way. But it always surprises me. I'll say that it must be nice to get away from the kids for a night, and they shrug and say that it's not much different to be out without their kids, because when they're home they do their thing, and their kids do their thing.