His mother is the only parent remaining alive. She used to have an insurance care policy that would care for her if she ever needed help at home. Against the advice of her son she cancelled it and now needs help.
We were supposed to have moved away together long ago but dh decided he didn't want to so we didn't. We were planning to move in two years, but now that his mother needs care and she cancelled the policy and he took out that stupid reverse mortgage that I was against from the beginning, and he feels guilty about it, it doesn't look like any of my wishes will ever come to light.