*Updated* DD18 is pregnant and DH gave her an ultimatum
DH and I are very disappointed in her and we gave her an ultimatum.
Option 1: She can keep the baby, finish school, stay here and attend college with our financial support.
Option 2: She can give the baby up for adoption, get a job and pay us rent and utilities, or move out (her choice).
Option 3: If she chooses abortion she will be given 30 days notice to leave our home with no financial or emotional support from us.
Extreme? Yes, absolutely. She knew perfectly well our stance on teen/unwed pregnancies as she grew up. She also had Chrystal clear rules and expectations. Those are her consequences as set by my husband and agreed upon by me.
For those of you who continue to insist I'm punishing her for adoption, that is not the case. All of our children pay rent and utilities ($300) to us upon the completion of high school. We, in turn, allow them to move into one of our guest houses and we pay for their college tuition and books. All of our children, upon the completion of high school, may choose to stay with us and pay our rent or move out and pay rent elsewhere. We still pay for their college as long as they attend full time.
We are not religious, I have no idea where you read that. Further, we have no problem with gay people and I have no idea where you read that. Our youngest DD13 is gay, and pro choice.
All of our children have 100% access to birth control, DD18 has been in it since 16 but I think she forgot to take it.
Finally, she is not being rewarded for keeping the child, and I am not going to be raising it for her. The child would go to daycare during the days she had school, and they would live in a guest house. We chose to wave rent and utilities only so that she would have the time to be an attentive parent and a full time student, we did not think it was realistic to expect her to also work full time without the child suffering.
So far, she is leaning towards adopting out the baby, paying us rent and attending college. She feels this may be the best option for her, but is unsure about how attached she will become to the baby during pregnancy. I've let her read through this post and she would like me to state that it is HER choice, and option number three was never an option for her. She does not feel pressured, as she knew these rules all along.
Thank you for your responses.