Well now she is pregnant and wants the family to adjust to her WANTS
My daughter (18 years old) announced today that she is pregnant. She already knew what the circustances will be if she chooses to get pregnant. Her choice whatever she does, but do not expect us, her parents to step up for her.
We also have a ten year old and sixteen year old in the home. We have five bedrooms (one for each child plus the eighteen year old) then a shared office between my husband and myself.
She insists we moved the ten year old to the office so that she can use her bedroom for the nursery. I told her no, we will not be giving up room arrangements for her.
She also insisted that once the baby is born, that the father (boyfriend) should be allowed to stay over night to help with the baby. I told her no, that is out of the question. Considering they are not married and we have other members in the household, she nor the boyfriend are paying the bills, they will not be granted to live in her bedroom as if they were in condo or apartment. If they want privacy they can move out.
She is also concerned because she and her boyfriend only minimal wage. She does not know how she is going to pay for daycare to watch the baby while she works. I told her she should have thought about that before she got pregnant and that I will not be giving up my activities to watch the baby. I have to drive the other two kids around to their activities and events throughout the week. On the weekend I want the days off, I will not be babysitting on my days off. She feels I am being selfish and putting the other two before her. I disagree. I didn't choose to have sex and get pregnant and expect others to step up for me.
I am not sure how this will all work out but at this time, she seems to think that others should be helping her with her decision and this baby. I want so badly to knock her on her ass.