Thought I would update. The Cast Party was this past Saturday. She went and had a great time with no incident. She was wrong about the no adult thing. there were plenty of adults in attendance. Quite a few parents went along. Since there were plenty of adults there and she kinda didnt want me there, I let her carpool there with a friend and I just picked her up when it was over.
Last year when my dd was a freshman i found out literally after the show that there was a cast party at some restaurant. I had no way of getting her there and it was already after 11pm so i told her not this time. she was at the cast party in the afternoon and i paid for the pizza for the cast.
I told her last year she could go to the next one. She's in another show and we know the party will take place after the last show (which is not until may) The show ends around 11:30 pm. I have no idea what restarurant yet and i dont drive But I told her she could go and that we would either have my sister go with us or we can take a taxi from the school to the restaurant. She tells me she doesnt want me to go because she doesnt think parents are allowed. She expects me to pick her up from school take her to the restaurant and then wait to pick her up.
Edited to add some more info: She's a good kid 99% of the time. She really is. However she has made some very poor choices in the past. Its been about a year since that poor choice but i didnt find out about it untila couple of months ago and its still kinda new. We are working on building up that trust again but its hard. Its not until the end of may so I still have some time to come to a compromise.
There is one more issue that I have and its that my daughter has a stalker. Letting her out of my sight is a very difficult thing to do. he has a habbit of showing up just when i let my guard down. The problem is he has not broken any laws that I can prove. Just when i thought He was gone and moved on. He started dating a girl from her school who just happens to be a part of the show. Which gives him a valid reason to be around.