Here's the deal.
We are full-time CP to DSD. No visiting order for BM, though they do talk on the phone about once a week.
We are going on a road trip this summer.
Along the way, we're going to stop and see BM so that DSD can see her and visit with her brother for a little bit (half brother). In a different state, we're also going to be in the town that my XH lives in for a day and so, my kids with him are going to stay the night with him.
Here's the problem. DSD's maternal grandfather lives in the same town as XH. She keeps asking if she can stay the night with him since her brother and sister ('step' siblings) are staying with their dad.
WELL, her grandpa repeatedly raped BM when she was a kid- that's not something I am willing to chance with my kid (I don't care what you say- she IS mine!).
So, we can visit him, of course, but there is no way in HELL DH or I will feel comfortable leaving DSD alone with him.
My question for you, and the reason I am posting this is, how would you tell a 7 year old little girl the reason she can't stay with her grandpa?
Keep in mind, I will NOT tell her at 7 the truth. She does not need to know that there are sick people who are related to her.