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Do you have a problem with the way this student is making money to pay for school?

Posted by on Mar. 6, 2014 at 9:19 AM
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College Freshman Who Pays Her Tuition By Starring in Adult Films Is Class Act

by Ericka Sóuter

xxxIt's pretty safe to say that no parent wants their daughter to do porn. And when we hear of a young person who has fallen into that world, we can't help but assume there are a tragic set of circumstances that led her there. But what if it were the choice of a smart, rational, ambitious college student? I am specifically referring to the Duke University student who has been mercilessly harassed since classmates found out that she moonlights as an adult movie star. The reason?

A pretty noble one, if you ask me. She does it to pay for college. Broken down, that's $45,620 for tuition and fees, $6,354 for housing, $5,850 for board, and another $3,580 for books and personal expenses. That's a lot of money and a hard bill to foot for students who don't have wealthy parents.

Yes, she could take out loans like so many of us did. But she has found a legal means to pay for it. And while it may shock and disgust others, she is okay with it. So I have to ask, why aren't we?

She only came forward to defend herself against the cruel taunts and bullying she has been experiencing since a fellow student spotted her in a video he was watching and blabbed. Among the awful tweets she has received, people have threatened to throw garbage at her and kick her in the face. She went to the police but she says they were doubtful and insensitive. Her last resort was to write a poignant personal essay on XOJane.com entitled, "I'm the Duke University Freshman Porn Star and for the First Time I'm Finally Revealing My Name."

Going by Belle Knox in adult movies, the coed admits to having sex on film for money and, more notably, that she's not ashamed of it. "I hate when people say I'm not entitled to my privacy because I do porn. I'm a human being. ... You don't get to treat me badly just because I do something you don't agree with," she wrote.

She doesn't want to let those bullies win. My only hope is that this makes them feel ashamed for the way they have treated her. That said, I am not holding my breath. While these students can watch porn, they feel entitled to pass judgment on this young girl. Not only that, they feel justified in hurting her. It's wrong on so many levels.

As much as I would HATE for my child to make this choice, this young woman is doing it to help create a better future for herself. It's not prostitution. It's not illegal. It's an informed choice on her part. Why should she be bullied and shamed for it? That is not an effective way to reach anyone. If she’s willing to live with that decision, so too should we.

Do you have a problem with the way this student is making money to pay for school?

by on Mar. 6, 2014 at 9:19 AM
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Cbreland07
by Ruby Member on Mar. 6, 2014 at 9:21 AM
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It's her life, but to me nothing is worth losing my self respect, and basically prostituting myself for money
Anonymous
by Anonymous on Mar. 6, 2014 at 9:21 AM
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It's her decision. She is messing up her future career possibilities though.

She should have stayed private.
imthatgirl0607
by Platinum Member on Mar. 6, 2014 at 9:22 AM
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I think it makes her dirty and immoral, among other things.

But, it's her life. 

Sassy762
by CAFE SASSY HBIC on Mar. 6, 2014 at 9:22 AM
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Nope.....

Just as long as it isn't MY child doing it. I don't care what she does because it isn't any of my business

sweetnsassymami
by Ruby Member on Mar. 6, 2014 at 9:23 AM

LOL I heard about this on the radio. Yeah she messed up her career. 

woodswalker
by Silver Member on Mar. 6, 2014 at 9:25 AM

No, but unfortunately her career choices WILL be limited by her decision.   

LuvmyAiden
by Silver Member on Mar. 6, 2014 at 9:25 AM

I don't disapprove per se but to me nothing is worth my self respect and she is also really messing up future jobs. That college degree doesn't mean much if you are unhirable because of your past.

Tracylynn100
by Silver Member on Mar. 6, 2014 at 9:27 AM
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Not much worse than getting drunk and screwing random guys, that said I really wouldn't want my dds to do it

RonaH
by Silver Member on Mar. 6, 2014 at 9:27 AM

I don't have a problem with it if she doesn't. Would I want my kid doing it? Not really but if she chose to go that route as an adult I would have to accept it. There is nothing illegal here and its her body so its her choice.

SaratheN
by on Mar. 6, 2014 at 9:27 AM
She pretty much has no future career since this got out.
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