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my ex's wife was arrested for kidnapping my daughter

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my ex asked me if he and his wife could take our 8 year old daughter out of state for a wedding for his wife's cousin. They would be leaving Wednesday afternoon and driving through three states. I told him no because she's already missed a lot of school this year due to illness and this would mean she would have to be checked out early on Wednesday and miss Thursday and Friday. I feel that is too much school to miss for people who she has never even met and have nothing to do with her. yesterday afternoon I picked her up after school as I usually do but she wasn't there. I parked and went to the office and they looked into the records and found out she had been checked out just before lunch by her father who by the way isn't allowed to pick her up it's specifically put in our court order because during school hours wouldn't be during his time anyway. I called my ex and he said that he was at work. He said he picked her up and had his wife take her to the wedding. The plan apparently was for him to fly up on Friday evening. I called his wife 3 times and left three different voicemails saying that she needed to turn around and bring my daughter back immediately she did not answer. So now I knew that his wife, who has no legal rights to her, was traveling with my child out of state and refusung to take my calls so naturally I called the police. They were found within the hour and she was arrested for kidnapping because that's what she did. I believe she is also going the charged with taking a minor over state lines because again that's what she did.I have been told that she will likely do some jail time up to a few years. At this point it's out of my hands anyway so it's not like it's even up to me to drop charges but I think she got what she deserved she knew she wasn't supposed to take my daughter out of state and she did it anyway and while I think honestly my e should be in more trouble than she is I don't feel bad for her. I'm also going to take my ex to court to adjust visitation since he violated the court order by picking her up. also since I have right of first refusal she shouldn't even be alone with my daughterunless I am first called and asked if I can take her. a lot of people know about the situation because the second I realize she was missing the first thing I did was put it on Facebook and ask everyone to share because at that point I wasn't even sure that she was actually with my ex for his wife for all I knew some man came up and said he wa her dad and Took her. most people I talk to are very supportive and think that his wife is getting what she deserves but I have gotten a few people who got a little bit nasty about it saying that I should ask the courts for leniency for her and that its unfair for her to do jail. I really am not inclined to do so but I was just kind of wondering what some of you ladies think
Posted by Anonymous on Mar. 6, 2014 at 2:20 PM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous on Mar. 6, 2014 at 2:33 PM
I said jail was too harsh because she may have been led to believe that she was legal in doing what she did because the father said it was okay to take her. Since the 2 of you cannot seem to get in the same page she got caught up in the middle. This whole thing makes you seem vindictive. Besides, did you tell her no or are you assuming your ex did. He may have told her you said yes. I kind of feel sorry for the stepmom.
Anonymous
by Anonymous on Mar. 6, 2014 at 2:33 PM
I'm assuming sm thought he had permission and got the go ahead. If this story's even true.
Miranda1127
by Platinum Member on Mar. 6, 2014 at 2:33 PM
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 *shrugs* The custody situation has nothing to do w/her. If she has a decent enough lawyer she could easily have the charges dismissed. The kids father gave her permission to take the girl. the father is involved in the girls life and has some kind of custody....he can give her permission (it is reasonable to assume his permission is valid). Whether or not he had a legal right to give permission is between the courts and the kids parents, it has nothing to do w/ step mom.

Quoting Mazie0723: He isnt the primary parent and she told him no. If it states in their custody agreement that he has to have permission to take her out of the state the gf is sol.
Quoting Miranda1127:

 hmmm...I'm pretty sure she can't be charged w/kidnapping if she had parental permission to take the child. And according to you she did, she had the girls dads permission. The rest is between you and your ex.

 

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Lindsey1126
by Silver Member on Mar. 6, 2014 at 2:34 PM
I would have done the same thing to the stupid Bitch! What did she think you were going to do?
wickedfiress
by Platinum Member on Mar. 6, 2014 at 2:35 PM


Quoting thenameshailie:

If it is anyones fault it would be the school and your ex. That is so cunty and a waste of law enforcement and court time when you knew very well that your daughter wasnt in any danger.

How does she know there even was a wedding? She in NO WAY wasted anyone's time. 


Miranda1127
by Platinum Member on Mar. 6, 2014 at 2:35 PM

 dad picked his dd up from school and gave someone else permission to take the girl across state lines. DAD is responsible for this fuck up. Chances are the courts will see it that way as well. Unless SM has a dumbass lawyer I don't see charges sticking.

Quoting Anonymous: It was not on his time it was on moms.....sm picked her daughter up from school and took off.
Quoting Miranda1127:

 hmmm...I'm pretty sure she can't be charged w/kidnapping if she had parental permission to take the child. And according to you she did, she had the girls dads permission. The rest is between you and your ex.

 

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Anonymous
by Anonymous on Mar. 6, 2014 at 2:35 PM

bump

Miranda1127
by Platinum Member on Mar. 6, 2014 at 2:37 PM

 If he couldn't than he violated the law not sm. A custody agreement is between the parents. Honestly, I don't see these charges sticking as the responsibility falls on the father.

Quoting toriandgrace: The father didn't have custody of the child at the time, so I don't think he could have given permission, but I don't know for certain.
Quoting Miranda1127:

 hmmm...I'm pretty sure she can't be charged w/kidnapping if she had parental permission to take the child. And according to you she did, she had the girls dads permission. The rest is between you and your ex.

 

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quinnsmom715
by Donna on Mar. 6, 2014 at 2:37 PM

i think you need to talk to the school on who is allowed to pick her up..

Anonymous
by Anonymous on Mar. 6, 2014 at 2:37 PM
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 because no kid has ever been taken from school by somebody saying they were someone else...

Quoting mjgm1966:

 First, a school would not release a child without proper identification from the adult.  So, you had to know it was her father who picked her up.  And couldn't it possibly be that your ex told his wife it was ok to pick her up and take her?  Her phone could have been in her purse, and she unable to answer it.  Did you tell your ex you were going to report her as kidnapped?  I would think having her arrested in front of your daughter would be tramatic for your daughter.  I personally think it could have been resolved more peaceably--if only for the sake of  your daughter.

 

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