He's hurting other people and I don't know what to do
Many kids go through phases like this, I am aware of that, but now he his started hitting, biting, pinching, kicking and pulling other peoples hair. He does this to anyone around him and when deprived of others, he falls back onto hitting himself. He is a sweet boy normally, but when he throws his fits, I just don't know... He is NOT spoiled and we have always been firm but fair, same as my other children. Sometimes he goes days without a tantrum, some days he throws 6.
I am at my wits end, I've tried everything from ignoring them (as long as he's not hurting others or himself) trying to calm him down while rocking him (which usually just ends with me hold in him down so he doesn't Burt me or himself, while still cooking to him) time outs, my husband has even given him swats on the butt (which I don't like, how can you teach someone not yo hit by hitting them?) I am a just lost...
He has been tested for delays, he is severely speech delayed and slightly delayed with fine motor skills and will be having a special needs teacher teaching him, but it's only a few times a week and not for another 2 weeks.
Can someone please give me suggestion? I need some help. Thanks for reading his all.