Just found out a few months ago that dh had a son we didn't know he had. Apparently a girl he had been with in college got pregnant and thought someone else to be the father until recently paternity was done. The child is 7. I'm not sure what to think about the situation because it's not one I would've chosen to be in but the boys mother is now asking ME for money and help with the child and as bad as it sounds i want nothing to do with them at this point. I haven't adjusted and last time I agreed to watch him for a few hours she didn't come back for 3 days and the boy terrorized my house, fought with my kids (physically), caused me to have to put my dogs outside because he wouldn't quit hitting and kicking them but the mother keeps trying to pressure me into things and giving me sad stories about her ex and how he walked out when he found out he wasn't the father and how badly little junior is taking it. I don't know what to do because I don't want to compromise the relationship between dh and his son but I don't want to be as involved as his mother is trying to get me to be either. Dh works a lot and her wanting me to have the boy when dh isn't here especially when it's not dh scheduled visitation is I think too much.