My sister in law just had a miscarriage... advice? *UPDATE*
I feel terrible. My brothers girlfriend went into the doctors two days ago from horrible cramping and bleeding. They doctors put her on bedrest and said she should be okay. She is ten weeks. My brother and her were laying in bed and she went to the bathroom. She started screaming and crying and called my brother in to the bathroom. She said "it" came out while she was peeing and they put whatever it was into a bowl with a lid and rushed to the ER. My mother was helping and said it could of been a blood clot but she doesn't think it was. We should know soon. I feel terrible and don't know what to do or say. I know some of you women believe it is just a fetus but they were so excited to become parents. What do I say to them? How do I comfort them?
Thank you all for you kind words and comfort. They got home about an hour ago. Unfortunately, she did have a miscarriage. We went into my room and I held her while she cried. I told her that it was not her fault and there was nothing that she could have done. I held her and told her how sorry I was that they went throught this and that I am here if she needed anything. My brother also came in but he seemed like he wanted left a lone so I told him that if he needs to talk then I am here. It is very emotional right now. She told me that she wanted to try again right away and I told her as long as her body is healed I don't see anything wrong with that. They both came in and was playing with my son. I feel terrible but I think I have done everything that I CAN do.
They told me that the doctor was very rude with them. They asked to say goodbye and they were giving them dirty looks and asked why. I told them that they need to report that doctor for being so rude. When they got there a there they threw them in a waiting room and did nothing. Finally after getting called in they took the piece that she passes, came back a while later and gave them paper work and released them. I understand that they see that everyday but they did not have to act like that.
Thank you everyone. I have left my door open in case they want to talk.