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You'll NEVER believe this!

Anonymous
Posted by Anonymous
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Just kidding.

I keep telling myself: "Not my kid, not my problem", but it's starting to affect my household and I need advice on how to handle this.

Tonight sucked. We tried to eat out and dinner was a fail; I forgot the diaper bag, we walked out after an hour and a half of not being served and the kids started throwing tantrums, tried to grab quick food and they messed up our order, AND SS SHIT HIMSELF.

He is in kindergarten, almost six years old. Potty training was very rocky, and his mom swore he was finally potty-trained right before school started. We get him EOW, and he's had an occasional accident at night (to be expected), so we never had a reason to doubt.

While out, we smelled something rank. Didn't even think to check SS's pants, it was so far from our mind. We kept asking, "Oh my goodness, is that the baby?" She hadn't pooped, but while waiting to be seated at the restaurant SS sat on my pants, and I knew.

It took forever to finally get it out of him; he has a habit of lying. He finally admitted it had happened before we left home. He'd been sitting in it for over an hour!

We get home and DH makes him clean himself up. He then tells us he does it a few times a week, and his mom amd Granny tell him not to worry about it and clean him up.

If he's telling the truth, his mom and family have been hiding it for a while now.

Here's where it starts to affect me:

Five months ago, he didn't have an accident on our visit but did when he got back with his mom. His grandma called us, raging, accusing my sixteen year old brother of having touched him and traumatized him enough that he started pooping his pants "again". My brother had come over, yes, but at least one of us was in the room while he visited and he didn't stay overnight. He played minecraft with DH and SS. We asked her if SS had said anything like that, and her response was, "Not at all, but what other excuse could there be?"

SS's grandma is incredibly spiteful and devious. She paid for her daughter's team of lawyers during the custody hearing, accused DH's home of being littered with used needles and unsafe (not only did a CS official visit and prove untrue, but DH has never in his life used drugs or had any kind of trouble with the law). DH was once ten minutes late picking up his son and she refused to let him have visitation, even threatening to call the cops for trespassing. She is nuts.

So now I'm worried she's trying to build a "case" that we're traumatizing him so badly he keeps reverting back to messing himself. She'll send him to us with cuts and bruises, then when he goes home accuses us of beating him; we've started documenting any cuts or bruises he has when we pick him up. But how do we prove something that isn't happening? How do we document we're NOT abusing him?
Posted by Anonymous on Mar. 8, 2014 at 9:20 PM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Mar. 8, 2014 at 9:20 PM
Sorry for the wall of text.
Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Mar. 8, 2014 at 9:23 PM
Also, we were talking during dinner and SS claimed "This was the worst night EVER!" We were joking around, saying that surely there are other people in the world who have had worse, and then I said, "But I agree, it did suck."

Ss: "Well NOW you're talking about sucking people!"

We corrected him and all, but just my luck, he's going to tell his grandma or mom I was "talking about sucking people", and they're going to go BALLISTIC.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Mar. 8, 2014 at 9:24 PM
Has ur brother ever touched him before ?
Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Mar. 8, 2014 at 9:27 PM
No, I don't even think he's even hugged him or anything. We've never had any kind of issue with him visiting. He's a pretty respectful kid. He hasn't been over since (while SS is here) just to be sure.

Quoting Anonymous: Has ur brother ever touched him before ?
Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on Mar. 8, 2014 at 9:28 PM
Get cps involved when he goes home
Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Mar. 8, 2014 at 9:30 PM
What do I tell them? Everything?

Quoting Anonymous: Get cps involved when he goes home
Foolynroo2
by Emerald Member on Mar. 8, 2014 at 9:33 PM
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So wait, I had to stop reading at the part where you knew he shit his pants when you were waiting at the resturant and continued to wait for a table and be seated and wait to be serviced.

firebird78
by Lilly's mom on Mar. 8, 2014 at 9:33 PM
Holy shit
What a mess!
firebird78
by Lilly's mom on Mar. 8, 2014 at 9:34 PM
Yes..

Quoting Anonymous: What do I tell them? Everything?

Quoting Anonymous: Get cps involved when he goes home
Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on Mar. 8, 2014 at 9:34 PM
Yes of course the truth works wonders

Quoting Anonymous: What do I tell them? Everything?

Quoting Anonymous: Get cps involved when he goes home
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