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what happened to my baby?? moms of girls please help

Posted by on Mar. 12, 2014 at 10:56 PM
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Okay my daughter is 5 1/2 and has turned to a holy terror. In the last year she has lost several friends, I used to do in home daycare and we aren't doing it anymore so the kids we were watching all moved away. we no longer are allowed to see her 5 cousins anymore who she was seeing on a daily basis. And there have been two deaths in the family. I am also pregnant with another girl. DD is in school kindergarten in the morning and preschool in the afternoon and has no issues at school at all.

The issues we are having with her are she refuses to eat at home except was she wants to eat. She will sit for an hour and,a half eating half a sandwich. she wants till she gets to kindergarten to have snack they give cookies crackers pretzels goldfish and other very unhealthy food. And at preschool lunch they have healthy choices so no problem there. But then we have had to pull her out of preschool before snack time because she was filling up on so much snack that she wouldn't be hungry at dinner. but she still takes forever to eat,dinner and we have to hound her to eat.

Other issue is she is arguing with everything we say. Lying everytime we ask her something. back talking, being rude, has forgotten all manners, disobeys all rules and I mean rules we ave always had no running no hitting, she has never been a hitter but she has started hitting. And temper tantrums have come back. Its so bad I will say no running and she will look right at me and run away. And then scream when I put her in time out.

We have tried taking away privileges, toys video games, tv, trips to grandmas house. Timeouts are what we have always used and she just doesn't mind anymore now she will try and pinch or trip people going up and downstairs cause time out is on the stairs. We do not believe in spanking, WE DO NOT BELIEVE IN SPANKING! I say it twice because I need advice other than spanking. I was physically abused and have anger issues and do not trust myself to spank. We have tried giving extra chores for her age. But nothing is working.

Her behavior at church is horrible too she runs up and down the pews after service crawls on the Floor during service she wont be quiet tries to distract anyone and everyone.

Everything she is doing is to get attention we're pretty sure but my husband and I are at a loss as to what to do.

PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE I AM AT MY WITS END AND I MISS MY LITTLE GIRL SHE WAS SO SWEET AND A SNUGGLE BUG AND NOW SHE WANTS DADDY OR GRANDMA OR TEACHERS BUT SHE DOESN'T WANT ANYTHING TO DO WITH ME.
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 on Mar. 12, 2014 at 11:00 PM
Bump.. mine has been like that since she was the same age. She's almost 8 now & seriously.. the child cut her hair yesterday AND lied about it.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Mar. 12, 2014 at 11:02 PM
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I don't care if you said it twice, she needs a spanking. I was severely abused and molested as a child. I went to counseling when i became a teen and realized that there is a difference between spankings and beatings. She is ruling the house right now.
axandra85
by on Mar. 12, 2014 at 11:03 PM
Thank you but we are not spanking

Quoting Anonymous: I don't care if you said it twice, she needs a spanking. I was severely abused and molested as a child. I went to counseling when i became a teen and realized that there is a difference between spankings and beatings. She is ruling the house right now.
Arwynn
by on Mar. 12, 2014 at 11:05 PM
It sounds like lots of things she cannot control have happened so now she's controlling what she can.
jb0520
by Platinum Member on Mar. 12, 2014 at 11:08 PM
Why was she in kindergarten and preschool? Is it more like a daycare?
Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on Mar. 12, 2014 at 11:10 PM

is she aware of the deaths?

Sarlinda
by Silver Member on Mar. 12, 2014 at 11:16 PM

Personally I'd talk to her doctor and teachers about her behavior. If it changed drastically all at once then there's something going on. Is she being bullied at school? Does she have a friend who is a bully? Maybe she's acting like one of her little friends. Kids usually do not change their behavior so quick without there being a reason. Good luck.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 4 on Mar. 12, 2014 at 11:16 PM

Reward sticker chart for good behavior---set a goal of earning small prizes? Send her to a therapist who can ask her why she is doing this? Take all toys out of her room? Move timeout location from the stairs to where she is alone?

Anonymous
by Anonymous 5 on Mar. 12, 2014 at 11:19 PM

Time out on the STAIRS is not a good idea, look for a new spot. 

That's dangerous.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 6 on Mar. 12, 2014 at 11:27 PM
Everything you list is negative. You need to reward her good behavior.

Snacks are tough. That stuff is very filling. I'd stop trying to force dinner. She can go to bed hungry and will good and hungry for breakfast. Focus on a great breakfast so she is not hungry for snacks while at school.
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