Sister in law situation. Kiss. Not sure what to do. Updated
Things with my husband have been drifting for a long time now. We just aren't in love anymore. We have 2 kids under 5 and another in grade school. We are going through the motions for the kids. During all this my SIL has been my person that I lean on. We have gotten very close this last year, she is my best friend.
We try to go to lunch a couple times a month but I can't always make it out with the littles, so she usually comes to the house. Yesterday (Friday) she came over and was really down about being passed over for a promotion at work. I was giving her a pep talk, saying maybe it for for the best, that something better was coming, that she was a great person and that good things were going to happen for her. Then I told her how thankful I was that she has been there for me when I needed her and that I would be lost without her.
Then she kissed me. It wasn't a deep kiss, she just leaned over and gave me a soft kiss on the lips. I was dumbstruck. Then she grabbed her stuff, thanked me for lunch and then left.
WHAT THE HELL?! Now I can't stop thinking about it, what do I do? Ignore it? Bring it up? Do I tell my husband!?
I can't sleep so I guess I will update.
I texted her and asked her to go to the park with me and the kids but we got rained out.
So I asked her to go with my to party city today ( Tuesday ) to help me pick out some stuff for my son's birthday party.
We met and acted like nothing happened. It was a little awkward at first but the outing went fine.
Around 9pm she sent me a text and wanted to talk about what happened.
She apologized and said she was caught up in the moment. That she really needed to hear the things I was telling her and she just lost herself for a minute. She said that she really hopes she doesn't lose me as a friend but that if I wanted to distance myself that she understood.
I decided to tell my dh what happened because I was feeling guilty about hiding it. To say that he didn't understand is an understatement. He flipped out and accused me of having an affair with his sister. He just absolutely wouldn't listen to me he was screaming and slamming cabinet doors and wouldn't speak to me at all. He locked himself in the bedroom and I just stayed in the living room.
About an hour ago he left the house and won't answer his phone.
I should have kept my mouth shut.