My kids are with thier dad about 50 percent of the time because we live close. They are preteens... His wife texts me literally everyday they are there asking me what they can and cant do. Can they eat this? Can they go here? Are they allowed to have a manicure? Stuff like that. I like her, and my kids love her but this is super freaking annoying! She has been around over 6 years and should know that I do not make demands or rules for thier fathers house. So I have no idea why shes always asking ME permission for stuff, when she does not need it because I trust her. She can do whatever she wants with them, and should be asking thier dad if anybody. I do not want to hurt her feelings at all but I am busy, I work, and its usually silly stuff like going swimming or something. I know she means no harm at all. What should I say?