I had a very long discussion with my dd about snooping in other people's stuff and respecting their privacy. I've also brought this up with her therapist for advice on how to best deal with this situation.
The fucked up part is her dad has recently told me that he didn't know if he could take dd for visitation this summer because his schedule was all messed up.
I don't want to tell him that she snooped and what she found but I know she's going to be devastated when she finds out he doesn't want her there! I know its going to break her heart and that breaks my heart because I can't stand to see my baby hurting.
I have always encouraged a close relationship between them and am at a loss of how to handle this besides what I've already done.
I'm worried if I talk to her dad he will take her for visitation to avoid hurting her feelings but then I would be concerned about sms treatment of her while she's there. I almost think its better to just let it play out now rather than her getting hurt in the future if this woman truly does not want her in their lives and apparently has so much control over what my exh does.