I judge mothers/wives who cannot be apart from their husbands or children. I understand family time is important, but so is alone time. Your children and spouse deserve alone time just as much as you do. Why can't you spend time by yourself, or with a friend? Are you that attached to your husband that you seriously can't leave him for a few hours to go do something by yourself or with friends? That's seriously unhealthy. Do you not have any interests or hobbies outside of your husband and children? Doesn't your husband have any interests or hobbies outside of you and his children?
Your life didn't end because you got married and had kids!