My "step"son is almost 6. His bio mom abandoned him right after his first birthday, at which point ds (I don't consider him step son and you will see why) came to live with my now-dh and I full time. Sole custody was awarded to my dh a year later, as it took a year to track down and subpoena bio mom. She has only seen ds a handful of times since he was 1, and no contact at all since he was 2.
Bms parents saw ds 2 times between age 1-2, and not at all since. We have been, through the entire time, accessible by at LEAST social media, they did have our address/phone before, but as they chose to distance themselves we did not update contact info with them.
Ds has no recollection of bm or any family members of hers. He just found out last fall that I am not his bio and is doing well with the info. A little clingy to me, but tells me frequently that he's happy he has me as his mom.
Last fall grandparents filed for visitation. A law guardian was assigned, interviewed ds and recommended the petition be dismissed bc the child did not know these people, and was well adjusted at home and it would not be in his best interest to visit grandparents. Petition was dismissed.
They then filed in OUR county, as they filed in theirs the first time and it should have been filed here. They didn't show to court. Dismissed.
Now they are filing again, claiming gma was sick at time of court. For the record, bio mom hasn't peeped up at all during any court case. She was incarcerated during the last 2, but I think she's out again. Her parents have custody of her 3yo that was taken at birth due to cocaine and heroin in his system. Ds does not know he has a brother by biomom.
I am so sick of this following our family. Dh and I are married, have a 2yo ds together that ds LOVES to pieces, and have a generally normal, happy life. Dh runs a plumbing warehouse, I'm a sahm. We want to terminate rights and have me adopt, which was always the plan, we just didn't want to rock the boat yet and disrupt ds life if unnecessary.
If you read ask this, thank you. I don't know what I'm expecting here, advice if you have any, encouraging words, keeping my ds in your thoughts/prayers etc. I'm just mentally drained and want to keep my ds out of family court, the place where I spent my childhood after my parents divorced.
Thanks for reading.