we're fighting because he says I am being unreasonable!
I hate fighting with DH but sometimes we have disagreements, every couple does at some point. We have been married for six years, we have two kids both girls Scout is 9 *yes born before our marriage so sue me* and Emory will turn 2 on April 1st. I have always been a working mother. I enjoy my job and I work for a school so I get ample time off with my kids.
Here is where the fighting began, in the last few months Adam (DH) has been talking about having a third child (we want four total well..he want four but I want three) and we have agreed to start trying. Now, suddenly, Adam wants me to quit my job and become a SAHM when the next baby is born. I asked him why he wanted that since he's never vocalized that want before. When we had Scout we had a very lengthy discussion and it just so happened that Scout was born in June so I was home with her all summer and by the time school began again she was almost three months old so she went to daycare and I went to work. When we had Emory things were a little different, she was an April baby so I ended up taking my maternity leave at the end of March and didn't return until the following school year. Yes in reality we would do just fine on Adam's income alone. We would not be in a tight spot, things would still work well.
The problem is....I need to work. I do not do well cooped up in a house all the time. I love the kids, on the weekends we are in constant motion unless someone is sick. I don't think my mental stability would remain "stable" if i had to be home 24/7. I realize it's not actually being at home all the time we can go out and do things but I would feel like I was being chained to the home. Adam says I should just quit and suck it up and find ways to keep busy. I say let me work because I get vacation from June until August plus Christmas, Thanksgiving, Spring Break ect.
Am I really being that unreasonable? He's acting like I am saying I want to rule the world. All I want is to keep my job.