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gay porn on my husbands phone!!????? What now?

Anonymous
Posted by Anonymous
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What would you do if you knew that your husband had been sexually abused by a man as a child and you came home to find that he had searched gay porn on his phone? I'm so confused! We have only had one conversation about the abuse and that was when he found out on fb that his abuser had died. He asked me to never talk about it again so I havn't. Since then, we had a little boy who's 8 months old now. I don't know what to think! Is this because of the abuse and normal or is my husband experimenting with homosexuality? I don't know what to do! We have been married 2 years now and I love him so much that I don't want this to be true! What would you do??
Posted by Anonymous on Mar. 22, 2014 at 11:22 PM
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Andrewsmom70
by Silver Member on Mar. 22, 2014 at 11:24 PM
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Counseling STAT. For both of you- individually and together.

sweettea1985
by Silver Member on Mar. 22, 2014 at 11:24 PM
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Talk to him... why is that such a foreign concept these days?
ChewyBrownies
by Platinum Member on Mar. 22, 2014 at 11:26 PM
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Maybe he's just curious. I'm not a lesbian but I've searched lesbian porn.


it's really intriguing how creative they are
Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Mar. 22, 2014 at 11:26 PM
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Women look at lesbian porn and no one blinks an eye. Sometimes porn is just porn... not something you want to actually do
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on Mar. 22, 2014 at 11:28 PM
It could mean nothing. Maybe he was curious.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Mar. 22, 2014 at 11:28 PM
I'm planning on it. Just looking for some advice.

Quoting sweettea1985: Talk to him... why is that such a foreign concept these days?
Nynnie
by Gold Member on Mar. 22, 2014 at 11:30 PM
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I think y'all need to have an honest talk. No, I don't think he's trying to relive his abuse unless he was one of those people who thinks they fell in love with their abuser.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Mar. 22, 2014 at 11:30 PM
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Yeah. I guess that's a good idea. I'm not sure if he would ever do something like that... thanks for the reply!

Quoting Andrewsmom70:

Counseling STAT. For both of you- individually and together.

ColleenF30
by Lube Girl on Mar. 22, 2014 at 11:30 PM
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He might like women and men. He might just like gay porn. Talk to him.
Andrewsmom70
by Silver Member on Mar. 22, 2014 at 11:32 PM
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Did he ever get counseling initially? If not, he's GOT to get counseling. Asking you to ignore it and not talk about it at all is a red flag that he never dealt with it, which isn't good. I'm not saying he's got to talk about it all the time but his ignoring it isn't healthy.

Quoting Anonymous: Yeah. I guess that's a good idea. I'm not sure if he would ever do something like that... thanks for the reply!
Quoting Andrewsmom70:

Counseling STAT. For both of you- individually and together.


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