Currently i am a sahm. My ex works 2nd shift. If and when I get a job it will be 2nd shift, which will be the opposite shift of my SO. So he will be the one to watch my kids. I know that my ex will have an issue with that but theres nothing else i can do. If i put them in daycare my ex will have to pay for it and he will refuse to pay and i will have to pay for it and thats just a waste and there would be no point in me even having a job. Do you think a judge would do anything about my SO watching my kids while both me and my ex are working?
(first right of refusal is in our divoce decree)
I've been with my SO for 3 years, we have lived with each other since we were together 8 months. We also have a kid together. He would never hurt my kids, I've seen the news and ive never had that fear when it came to my SO. Hes more patient with them then their bio dad is. Hes not the one that punishes them, i am. he knows his place as the boyfriend/future step dad and wouldnt cross that line. He doesnt have anything against my kids because they dont belong to him. He loves my kids and has been in their lives since they were 2, 1 and 7 months old. They are 5, 4 and 3 now.