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I'm sexually attracted to my.. (UPDATE!!)

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To my older sister. Please don't be mean. I am really scared and don't know what to do or where to turn. Has this happened to anyone else? Is this normal? I think she's beautiful and we're so close. I'm afraid she's going to stop having anything to do with me if I tell her. I'm so torn. Any advice?

When we were teenagers we played truth or dare and I kissed her. That's when I started thinking about her, I didn't admit it to myself until recently. The feelings are starting to get overwhelming and I want to share it with her. Would you?

She's my best friend and I can't think of another person I would want to spend my life with. I've only been in one relationship and he's the father of our son. He treated me horribly and as far as I'm concerned the last male relationship I will have. We've been split up for about a year now. 


I'm going to bed. I'll update more tomorrow. I'll read over replies and make my final decision whether I'm going to tell her or not. I'll let you know. 

I think I'm going to tell her and see how it goes. She gets home from work at about 5pm. Wish me luck.

Sorry it took me so long to update. My sister had to work late and I had to do normal mommy stuff. So I told her and she did not feel the same way. She was not mad at me though and that makes me really happy. At first she was a bit freaked out but then she calmed down and talked to me about it. She could not wrap her head around it but she was nice and receptive in the end. I think that there is a chance for us. I will update as more things unfold. I just wanted to say thank you for the overwhelming support. 

Posted by Anonymous on Mar. 26, 2014 at 3:48 AM
Replies (41-50):
Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Mar. 26, 2014 at 4:19 AM

Thank you for your support

Quoting paramedicbrit92: Therapy is really the best option I may be wrong but I think there really is a medical name for being attracted to siblings male or female if u need someone to talk to I will gladly talk


lili_monkey
by Silver Member on Mar. 26, 2014 at 4:19 AM

 Well being mean isn't going to accomplish anything, whether it's a real post or not, LOL.

So yes my advice is seek some help for it, especially if you want to keep your sister in your life as a sister. I highly doubt she would want to have a relationship with you, being that you are related (are you blood related?). In my book feelings like that aren't healthy, incest I mean.

So, hopefully you can get some help, work through it and the feelings go away. Good luck!

Quoting Anonymous:

Thank you for being kind to me. 

I've felt this way for a long time, I just admitted it to myself. Could it just be infatuation? I may have to see a counselor. 

Quoting lili_monkey:

 Are you sure you're not just infatuated with her? You honestly have sexual feelings for her?

I wouldn't tell her if I were you. If I were in your shoes, I would maybe see about seeing a therapist or counsler to help sort out and confront these feelings. That's the only advice I can think of.




Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Mar. 26, 2014 at 4:22 AM

My biggest fear is that I am going to lose her. Yes we are blood related. I don't want my family to be mad at me or hate me. I may need a counselor. I don't know.

Quoting lili_monkey:

 Well being mean isn't going to accomplish anything, whether it's a real post or not, LOL.

So yes my advice is seek some help for it, especially if you want to keep your sister in your life as a sister. I highly doubt she would want to have a relationship with you, being that you are related (are you blood related?). In my book feelings like that aren't healthy, incest I mean.

So, hopefully you can get some help, work through it and the feelings go away. Good luck!

Quoting Anonymous:

Thank you for being kind to me. 

I've felt this way for a long time, I just admitted it to myself. Could it just be infatuation? I may have to see a counselor. 

Quoting lili_monkey:

 Are you sure you're not just infatuated with her? You honestly have sexual feelings for her?

I wouldn't tell her if I were you. If I were in your shoes, I would maybe see about seeing a therapist or counsler to help sort out and confront these feelings. That's the only advice I can think of.



Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Mar. 26, 2014 at 4:22 AM

Thanks

Quoting paramedicbrit92: Any time feel free to add me I'm wonderful at keeping secrets and I have a good listening ear
Quoting Anonymous:

Thank you for your support

Quoting paramedicbrit92: Therapy is really the best option I may be wrong but I think there really is a medical name for being attracted to siblings male or female if u need someone to talk to I will gladly talk



lili_monkey
by Silver Member on Mar. 26, 2014 at 4:25 AM

 Yeah the possibility of losing your relationship with your sister is high. Trying to put myself in your shoes, I wouldn't want to risk that. That wouldn't be worth it to me.

Do you think you are attracted to woman also, or just her?

Quoting Anonymous:

My biggest fear is that I am going to lose her. Yes we are blood related. I don't want my family to be mad at me or hate me. I may need a counselor. I don't know.

Quoting lili_monkey:

 Well being mean isn't going to accomplish anything, whether it's a real post or not, LOL.

So yes my advice is seek some help for it, especially if you want to keep your sister in your life as a sister. I highly doubt she would want to have a relationship with you, being that you are related (are you blood related?). In my book feelings like that aren't healthy, incest I mean.

So, hopefully you can get some help, work through it and the feelings go away. Good luck!

Quoting Anonymous:

Thank you for being kind to me. 

I've felt this way for a long time, I just admitted it to myself. Could it just be infatuation? I may have to see a counselor. 

Quoting lili_monkey:

 Are you sure you're not just infatuated with her? You honestly have sexual feelings for her?

I wouldn't tell her if I were you. If I were in your shoes, I would maybe see about seeing a therapist or counsler to help sort out and confront these feelings. That's the only advice I can think of.





Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Mar. 26, 2014 at 4:26 AM

I think I like women too

Quoting lili_monkey:

 Yeah the possibility of losing your relationship with your sister is high. Trying to put myself in your shoes, I wouldn't want to risk that. That wouldn't be worth it to me.

Do you think you are attracted to woman also, or just her?

Quoting Anonymous:

My biggest fear is that I am going to lose her. Yes we are blood related. I don't want my family to be mad at me or hate me. I may need a counselor. I don't know.

Quoting lili_monkey:

 Well being mean isn't going to accomplish anything, whether it's a real post or not, LOL.

So yes my advice is seek some help for it, especially if you want to keep your sister in your life as a sister. I highly doubt she would want to have a relationship with you, being that you are related (are you blood related?). In my book feelings like that aren't healthy, incest I mean.

So, hopefully you can get some help, work through it and the feelings go away. Good luck!

Quoting Anonymous:

Thank you for being kind to me. 

I've felt this way for a long time, I just admitted it to myself. Could it just be infatuation? I may have to see a counselor. 

Quoting lili_monkey:

 Are you sure you're not just infatuated with her? You honestly have sexual feelings for her?

I wouldn't tell her if I were you. If I were in your shoes, I would maybe see about seeing a therapist or counsler to help sort out and confront these feelings. That's the only advice I can think of.




mummyoftwins92
by Bronze Member on Mar. 26, 2014 at 4:27 AM
I think you need to seek some help.if you tell her it will ruin your relationship you already have with your sister.
Anonymous
by Anonymous on Mar. 26, 2014 at 4:28 AM
Therapist. Stat.
Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Mar. 26, 2014 at 4:29 AM

That's what I am most scared of

Quoting mummyoftwins92: I think you need to seek some help.if you tell her it will ruin your relationship you already have with your sister.


lili_monkey
by Silver Member on Mar. 26, 2014 at 4:29 AM

 Assuming you aren't currently married or in a relationship, why not try dating a woman. You may find that your feelings for your sister go away. Like maybe you noticed you are having feelings for women, and your projecting these feelings onto your sister because you are scared. Does that make sense?

Quoting Anonymous:

I think I like women too

Quoting lili_monkey:

 Yeah the possibility of losing your relationship with your sister is high. Trying to put myself in your shoes, I wouldn't want to risk that. That wouldn't be worth it to me.

Do you think you are attracted to woman also, or just her?

Quoting Anonymous:

My biggest fear is that I am going to lose her. Yes we are blood related. I don't want my family to be mad at me or hate me. I may need a counselor. I don't know.

Quoting lili_monkey:

 Well being mean isn't going to accomplish anything, whether it's a real post or not, LOL.

So yes my advice is seek some help for it, especially if you want to keep your sister in your life as a sister. I highly doubt she would want to have a relationship with you, being that you are related (are you blood related?). In my book feelings like that aren't healthy, incest I mean.

So, hopefully you can get some help, work through it and the feelings go away. Good luck!

Quoting Anonymous:

Thank you for being kind to me. 

I've felt this way for a long time, I just admitted it to myself. Could it just be infatuation? I may have to see a counselor. 

Quoting lili_monkey:

 Are you sure you're not just infatuated with her? You honestly have sexual feelings for her?

I wouldn't tell her if I were you. If I were in your shoes, I would maybe see about seeing a therapist or counsler to help sort out and confront these feelings. That's the only advice I can think of.






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